Your Standards > Your Goals | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

Dec 12, 2025

A deep dive into why standards are more crucial than goals reveals that true identity shapes consistent behavior. Goals often crumble under pressure, but strong standards create stability and resilience. Ryan shares personal stories, including his recovery from a serious injury, to illustrate how living by non-negotiable standards drives transformation. He introduces a four-step framework for upgrading your identity and maintaining accountability. This enlightening discussion encourages listeners to take immediate action and elevate their standards for a better future.

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INSIGHT

Standards Define Identity

Goals live in the future and are volatile while standards live in your identity and define who you are today.
Standards are behaviors and rules you hold yourself to with zero negotiation, not wishes to fulfill later.

ANECDOTE

Recovering Stronger After A Ruptured Pec

After a complete pec tendon rupture, Ryan still showed up to jiu-jitsu and adapted how he trained while recovering from surgery.
Because his standard was to keep training, he returned stronger and better than before.

ADVICE

Reverse-Engineer Goals Into Standards

Reverse-engineer your goals into daily non-negotiable standards that anchor action in the present.
Pick behaviors (e.g., train five days, tell the truth, show up for family) that reflect the man you want to be.

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Most men obsess over goals - the outcomes, the achievements, the shiny targets. But goals don't build men. Standards do. In today's Field Notes, Ryan breaks down why standards define your identity, how they outperform goals in every way, and why your life only changes when you elevate the rules you live by. He shares powerful examples, including recovering from a major injury, why men fail when they rely on motivation, and how to build standards that make you unshakable.

Ryan also outlines a four-step framework to reset your identity, eliminate weak standards, and cement the behaviors that transform your life. If you want 2026 to be different, this episode explains exactly where to start.

Key Takeaways Goals are emotionally dependent, standards are identity-based. Standards keep you anchored in the present - goals keep you trapped in the future. Goals collapse under adversity; standards strengthen you because they're non-negotiable. A man becomes powerful when he lives by a code with zero negotiation. Your life changes when your identity upgrades, not when your goals get bigger.

Four-step framework to build standards that stick: -Identify the man you refuse to be. -Build non-negotiables in all four quadrants (Calibration, Connection, Condition, Contribution). -Build accountability. -Enforce consequences when you violate your own standards.

00:00 - Introduction 00:09 - Why Most Men Get Goals Backwards 01:20 - Goals Don't Build Men — Standards Do 02:33 - Examples of Weak vs. Strong Standards 04:34 - Ryan's Pec Tear: Standards in Adversity 06:24 - A Man Rises or Falls to His Standards 07:50 - Why Goals Fail Men 09:33 - How Goals Delay Action and Keep Men Stuck 11:23 - Goals Collapse Under Stress 12:57 - Standards Create Structure and Strength 14:38 - How Standards Transform a Man 16:10 - Standards Prevent Moral Drift 17:32 - Building Trust Through Consistency 18:57 - Standards Make Men Anti-Fragile 21:03 - Stop Waiting for "All Green Lights" 22:43 - Identity Before Action 23:28 - Fast Progress Comes From Identity Shifts 24:26 - The "Light Yourself on Fire" Lesson 25:14 - Reverse Engineering Goals Into Standards 25:57 - Step 1: Identify the Man You Refuse to Be 27:38 - Making Weak Behaviors Repulsive 29:31 - Step 2: Non-Negotiables in the Four Quadrants 31:32 - Step 3: Accountability 33:00 - Step 4: Enforce Consequences 33:42 - Final Challenge: Raise Your Standards 35:45 - Iron Council Promotion 36:33 - Preview Call Details

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