Breaking free from S.H.A.M.E.: Secrets, Healing, and Self Evolution

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What secrets are you keeping that are holding back your evolution? In this illuminating conversation, Elizabeth introduces a powerful new framework for understanding shame through her acronym SHAME: Secrets Hold All My Evolution. With remarkable vulnerability, she shares her personal journey of avoiding medical care due to fears connected to her mother's death at a similar age—and how the simple act of admitting this "embarrassing" truth to her partner created immediate liberation.

davidji responds with his own story of survivor's guilt after having worked in the World Trade Center before 9/11, illustrating how finding deeper meaning helped transform his shame into purpose. Together, they explore how shame grows exponentially in silence, creating an echo chamber where our secrets become increasingly loud and constricting. The moment we give voice to these hidden parts—whether to a trusted friend, therapist, journal, or even a pet—we begin to dissolve shame's power over us.

The conversation delves into various manifestations of shame—body, sexual, cultural, identity, familial, and achievement-related—all stemming from the core belief "I am not enough." Elizabeth offers the profound insight that what disgusts us in others often points directly to our own shadow material, while David shares his practice of transforming his inner critic into an "inner guardian," giving that critical voice a new, supportive role.

What makes this discussion so powerful is its practical approach to healing. From journaling with the prompt "I'm embarrassed to admit..." to transforming your relationship with your inner critic, these tools honor the delicate nature of shame work. The hosts remind us that we always have a choice—to remain imprisoned in shame or to step into freedom through conscious awareness and self-compassion.

Ready to reclaim the energy your secrets have been holding hostage? Listen now, and discover how speaking your truth can become the doorway to your most profound healing and evolution.

Shame keeps us trapped in silence, but when we find the courage to voice our embarrassing truths, we discover freedom, connection, and evolution. Elizabeth introduces her powerful acronym SHAME (Secrets Hold All My Evolution) while sharing a personal story about avoiding medical care due to fears connected with her mother's death.

• Elizabeth shares how admitting her "embarrassing" avoidance of doctors transformed her relationship with fear
• davidji discusses his experience with survivor's guilt after having worked in the World Trade Center before 9/11
• Shame grows louder in silence, creating an echo chamber of self-judgment that constricts our energy
• Different types of shame include body, sexual, cultural, identity, and achievement-related shame
• What disgusts us in others often points directly to our own shadow material
• Journaling with "I'm embarrassed to admit..." can be a first step toward healing
• Transforming your inner critic into an "inner guardian" changes your relationship with shame
• Speaking our truth, even if only to ourselves initially, releases trapped energy
• We always have a choice to move from judgment to compassion

With each breath, I am reborn. Today I begin again. I am not my shame, I am my healing.

We transform the world by transforming ourselves.
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