The Shadow & The Light w davidji & Elizabeth Winkler

Send us a text to let us know how this episode impacted you. When the night sky goes dark, possibility expands. We explore the new moon as a powerful pattern interrupt and share a grounded framework to move from vague wishing to deliberate creation. The conversation starts with the cosmic mechanics—why the moon’s disappearance matters—and quickly turns practical: how to use reflection, ritual, and simple sensory cues to give your intentions a place to root.We walk through a step-by-step process that includes focused journaling, a minimalist bay leaf practice, and small environment tweaks that make new behaviors stick. You’ll hear why fewer intentions are stronger, how to translate desire into one daily action, and what it means to return ash to the earth as a sign of partnership with nature. We also explore the bridge between the cosmic and the personal, drawing on the teaching that as the cosmos moves, so do we, and how that outlook reduces resistance and boosts follow-through.For listeners who love astrology, we outline how to find the new moon by house and align your seed with the life area that has the wind at its back—identity, home, career, money, or shared resources. If charts aren’t your thing, you’ll still leave with a clean, repeatable cadence: reflect before, set intentions on the dark night, and take one small action within twenty-four hours. This is your chance to incubate a fresh story with the universe at your back—twelve times a year, sometimes thirteen. Press play, plant your seed, and tell us what you’re calling in. If this resonates, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review so more seekers can find the show.We honor the new moon as a pattern interrupt and invite you into a clear, grounded ritual for setting intentions. From journaling and bay leaves to mapping goals by life area and astrology houses, we show how to turn a dark sky into fertile ground for change.• new moon as a cosmic pause and fresh start• difference between full moon release and new moon intention• journaling to clarify desires and focus attention• bay leaf ritual and returning ash to the earth• creating a simple altar and rebirth practices• linking cosmic cycles to personal habits and outcomes• five life domains for targeted intentions• using astrology houses to refine the seed you plant• the power of consistency across twelve annual cycles• practical steps for acting within twenty‑four hoursLet us know in the comments how this practice was for youMake sure you share this podcast with everyone you knowFeel free to like and review all of these episodesATTENTION: Elizabeth is coming to Ireland! Click this link to join the retreat! We transform the world by transforming ourselves.Share this podcast with your friends, loved ones, and workmates. Visit davidji.com & elizabethwinkler.com for additional meditation & healing resources.Big shoutout to the amazing Jamar Rogers for creating such powerful music and lyrics for the official song of The Shadow & The Light Podcast!

Send us a text to let us know how this episode impacted you. If you're listening to this episode... it might be a full moon. Join davidji & Elizabeth Winkler for a deep dive into how you can harness the power of the cosmos and weave it into this very moment - for healing, for connection, and for all aspects of your life. Ever notice certain weekends feel louder—like emotions, memories, and old stories all rise at once? We lean into that surge and unpack why the full moon can be both challenging and incredibly clarifying. Drawing from ancient symbolism and modern psychology, we map the sun as outer identity and action, and the moon as inner emotion and memory, then show how their opposition at fullness becomes a powerful mirror for release, gratitude, and renewal.Together we explore the 72-hour halo around peak fullness, when everything gets amplified—and how to use it. We share practical, grounding rituals: a bay leaf fire practice to cut lingering cords with compassion, a moon-charged water elixir for steady integration, and mindful ways to honor ancestors by ending unhelpful patterns. You’ll learn the six-month arc from new moon intention to full moon fruition in the same sign, a simple journaling method to “take stock,” and everyday micro-releases that actually stick, like trimming a habit or returning the call you’ve avoided.To balance the intensity, we guide a gentle alternate nostril breathing session that harmonizes ida and pingala, calms the nervous system, and restores inner equilibrium—evidence-backed benefits include lower heart rate and blood pressure, and a clearer mind to make clean choices. By the end, you’ll have a clear script: step into the moonlight, hand on heart, and ask one brave question—What am I holding that no longer serves me?—then let gratitude and breath carry the answer forward.If this conversation helped you feel seen, centered, or simply curious, follow the show, share it with a friend who loves ritual, and leave a quick review so others can find it too.We explore the full moon as a catalyst for release, gratitude, and balance, linking ancient symbolism with modern psychology and practical breathwork. Clear rituals and a guided alternate nostril practice help turn intention into action and calm.• sun as outer identity and yang energy• moon as inner world, emotion, and yin• full moon as amplification and opposition• pruning what no longer serves• gratitude and taking stock within a 72-hour halo• six-month new-to-full moon manifestation cycle• bay leaf burning and safe ash offering• water elixir ritual and crystal care• alternate nostril breathing for balance• practical micro-releases in habits and relationships• honoring ancestors and ending unhelpful cycles• one question to identify what to let goThank you for joining us for the Shadow and Light podcastATTENTION: Elizabeth is coming to Ireland! Click this link to join the retreat! We transform the world by transforming ourselves.Share this podcast with your friends, loved ones, and workmates. Visit davidji.com & elizabethwinkler.com for additional meditation & healing resources.Big shoutout to the amazing Jamar Rogers for creating such powerful music and lyrics for the official song of The Shadow & The Light Podcast!

Send us a text to let us know how this episode impacted you. What if health isn’t the absence of disease, but the presence of balance you can actually feel? We dive into Ayurveda’s timeless map of the five elements—space, air, fire, water, earth—and show how they shape your unique constitution, or dosha: Vata, Pitta, and Kapha. With stories, humor, and real-life examples, we connect ancient insights to everyday choices like travel routines, sleep timing, and how you build the right team at work and at home.You’ll learn how each element shows up inside your body and all around you, why your baseline nature doesn’t change but your balance does, and how to use opposites to steady yourself. Vata gets grounded with warmth, rhythm, and hydration, especially on planes. Pitta cools down with less competition, more space in the schedule, and soothing foods like watermelon. Kapha wakes up with invigorating movement and lighter meals. We also unpack Agni, the inner fire that digests both food and feelings, and explain why 10 p.m. to 2 a.m. is prime time for emotional repair and deep sleep. The payoff is ojas—sweet vital nectar—rather than ama, the sticky residue of undigested experiences.Along the way we share a powerful mantra, Agni Mile Purohitam, and simple guardrails for breathwork and hot practices so fiery types don’t “scorch the village.” We frame “elemental diversity” as a secret advantage in teams and relationships: Vata brings creativity and connection, Pitta brings drive and clarity, Kapha brings steadiness and trust. Put them together with care and you’ve got a dream team.Ready to identify your type and build rituals that actually fit your nature? Listen now, take the dosha quiz in the notes, and tell us what you’ll try this week. If this conversation helps you see yourself more clearly, follow the show, share it with a friend, and leave a review to help others find us.We explore Ayurveda’s core idea that health is balance, not just the absence of disease, and show how the five elements shape your dosha and daily choices. We share practical tools for travel, sleep, work, and relationships, plus a mantra to strengthen your inner fire.• five elements as the basis of body and mind• doshas explained with traits and imbalances• inner and outer expressions of space, air, fire, water, earth• practical balance tips for vata, pitta, kapha• travel strategies to calm vata and stay present• agni, ojas, ama and emotional digestion• sleep timing from 10 p.m. to 2 a.m. for deep rest• elemental diversity for teams, families and creativity• mantra and breathwork guidance with cautions• self-audit question: what did I leave behindTake the Dosha Quiz to identify your mindbody personality and find out your basic nature https://davidjimeditationacademy.com/davidji-dosha-quiz/ATTENTION: Elizabeth is coming to Ireland! Click this link to join the retreat! We transform the world by transforming ourselves.Share this podcast with your friends, loved ones, and workmates. Visit davidji.com & elizabethwinkler.com for additional meditation & healing resources.Big shoutout to the amazing Jamar Rogers for creating such powerful music and lyrics for the official song of The Shadow & The Light Podcast!

Send us a text to let us know how this episode impacted you. A sunrise canoe in Hawaii cracked something open for us. A guide looked a boat full of strangers in the eye and said, “Use your shit,” and it landed like a bell. From that moment, we trace how pretending to be fine starves our growth, why shame hoards our evolution, and how vulnerability becomes the bridge from isolation to intimacy. We name the quiet performances we all run to protect what hurts and offer a clear framework to shift choices in real time: fear, love, or habit.Together we unpack the difference between authenticity and truth in emotions, and why fear can feel real in the body even when the story is false. We talk about the “personality of pretending,” imposter feelings, and the subtle ways we hide in everyday moments—at the store, at dinner, in quick greetings—because keeping an image intact seems safer than being seen. Instead of burying discomfort, we invite you to use it as fertilizer. Small, simple practices—breath, a brief pause, a line in a journal, a mantra like “maybe, maybe not”—become pattern interrupts that rebuild capacity and help you respond, not react.We also explore the convergence that makes change stick: message, messenger, and timing. You can’t force receptivity, but you can prepare the soil. Self-compassion tools like a hand on the heart and “I’m here” reconnect the inner child you once abandoned. Working the low-hanging fruit—traffic, a tense email, a changed plan—trains your nervous system for bigger moments. The payoff is tangible: cleaner energy, deeper bonds, and choices aligned with love over habit. If you’re ready to own your impact and grow something honest from the mud, press play and join us. If this conversation resonated, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so others can find the show.We explore how pretending to be fine keeps us stuck and how vulnerability turns pain into growth. A sunrise canoe in Hawaii sparks a practical framework—fear, love, or habit—to help us own our impact and use our “fertilizer” wisely.• releasing the personality of pretending• shame, secrecy, and using pain as fertilizer• choosing between fear, love, or habit• authenticity versus truth in emotions• inner child care with breath and self-compassion• simple practices that build capacity• small wins as pattern interrupts• message, messenger, and timing for change• owning your impact in relationships and habitsATTENTION: Elizabeth is coming to Ireland! Click this link to join the retreat! We transform the world by transforming ourselves.Share this podcast with your friends, loved ones, and workmates. Visit davidji.com & elizabethwinkler.com for additional meditation & healing resources.Big shoutout to the amazing Jamar Rogers for creating such powerful music and lyrics for the official song of The Shadow & The Light Podcast!

Send us a text to let us know how this episode impacted you. What if the bravest kind of love is the one that knows how it ends—and chooses it anyway? We open our hearts to the animals who share our homes and our inner lives, asking why we invite a goodbye into the story and discovering how pets return the favor by teaching presence, trust, and unconditional love. From Peaches, the seventeen‑year‑old “Buddha princess,” to a campus‑famous therapy dog named Ralph, this conversation moves through aging, anticipatory grief, and the quiet rituals that turn care into connection.We share the small pivots that matter as pets grow older—less ocean play, more soft blankets and ujayi breath hummed against a ribcage so they can feel the calm they can no longer hear. We talk about meditating with animals, ignoring dogma in favor of dogs, and how energy entrainment makes the whole room softer. There’s honest talk about responsibility and timing, especially for anyone who’s not ready yet, and a clear call for ethical guardianship: adopt when you can truly commit, train with kindness, and let animals be the animals they are. Cats hunt. Dogs sniff. Both sense our moods better than most people.Along the way, we explore how animals reopen the door to trust after loss, how a cat’s routine can anchor someone’s healing, and why our pets may be the little bodhisattvas of our busy modern lives. If you’ve ever checked for a sleeping pet’s breath in the night, whispered a secret into fur, or felt your nervous system settle when a warm weight leaned against your leg, you’ll find yourself here.If this resonated, share it with a fellow animal lover, subscribe for more conversations at the edge of shadow and light, and leave a review to help others find the show. Tell us your pet’s name and the greatest lesson they’ve taught you—we’re listening.We explore why we choose pets knowing we will say goodbye, and how impermanence, presence and unconditional love shape the way we care, grieve and grow. From meditating with animals to elder care for Peaches, we share stories that turn responsibility into reverence.• choosing pets despite impermanence• daily care shifting to palliative comfort• a non‑owner’s perspective on bandwidth and regret• trust, memory and living in the present• cats as nature’s lesson in instinct• animals as healers in times of loss• meditating with pets and energy entrainment• stewardship, adoption and ethical guardianship• therapy dog co‑regulation and anxiety relief• Peaches teaches: presence over projectionAdopt your next petVisit our website, the Shadow and The Light Podcast.com, follow us on Instagram, the Shadow and the Light Podcast, and everywhere you listen to podcasts on the planetATTENTION: Elizabeth is coming to Ireland! Click this link to join the retreat! We transform the world by transforming ourselves.Share this podcast with your friends, loved ones, and workmates. Visit davidji.com & elizabethwinkler.com for additional meditation & healing resources.Big shoutout to the amazing Jamar Rogers for creating such powerful music and lyrics for the official song of The Shadow & The Light Podcast!

Send us a text to let us know how this episode impacted you. Have you ever caught yourself thinking that people never really change? Or perhaps you're convinced that transformation is not only possible but inevitable? This fascinating tension between fixed and growth mindsets forms the heart of our exploration into personal transformation.davidji and Elizabeth dive deep into what makes genuine change possible, revealing that the first step isn't focusing on others but turning inward. "Put down the magnifying glass and hold up the mirror," Elizabeth suggests, offering a powerful metaphor for where true transformation begins. We unpack the cycle of change - from believing it's possible, to willingness, to taking courageous action, to celebrating small wins - and how this process creates lasting transformation rather than temporary change. But perhaps most illuminating is our discussion of how many of us live trapped in reward/punishment cycles, postponing joy while waiting for weekends, vacations, or some future moment to truly live.Drawing from Eckhart Tolle's wisdom, we explore how to transmute ordinary waiting periods into moments of presence and enjoyment. Those five years we collectively spend waiting in lines throughout our lives? They can become portals to mindfulness rather than sources of frustration. By anchoring in our bodies, connecting with nature, or simply noticing what's around us, we reclaim these "wasted" moments and infuse them with meaning.For anyone feeling stuck in patterns that no longer serve them, we offer practical techniques, including a beautiful meditation practice: "Hello, eternal loving presence." This simple phrase can interrupt negative patterns and invite connection with your deeper self, especially during difficult times.Whether you're crawling through metaphorical glass or quicksand in your own journey, we remind you that honoring where you are without judgment is the first step toward freedom. And while transformation doesn't guarantee happiness, it does lead to something perhaps more valuable—peace and a profound connection to something larger than ourselves.Join us in this episode to discover how the journey itself, not some distant destination, is where life's richness truly resides.davidji and Elizabeth explore whether people can truly change, examining how our focus on changing others distracts us from the internal transformation that matters most.• People constantly change on a cellular level, but psychological transformation requires specific conditions• True change requires belief in the possibility of change, willingness to change, and readiness to do difficult things• Breaking free from reward/punishment cycles helps us experience joy in the present moment• Waiting periods (like lines or traffic) can become opportunities for mindfulness rather than frustration• The Buddhist concept of kleshas (obstacles) explains what prevents us from experiencing our true nature• Transformation doesn't guarantee happiness but leads to peace and connection with something larger• Simple practices likeATTENTION: Elizabeth is coming to Ireland! Click this link to join the retreat! We transform the world by transforming ourselves.Share this podcast with your friends, loved ones, and workmates. Visit davidji.com & elizabethwinkler.com for additional meditation & healing resources.Big shoutout to the amazing Jamar Rogers for creating such powerful music and lyrics for the official song of The Shadow & The Light Podcast!

Send us a text to let us know how this episode impacted you. Feeling triggered, stressed, or carrying that proverbial chip on your shoulder? You might be experiencing what meditation teacher davidji and psychotherapist Elizabeth Winkler reveal as "emotional fight-flight" – a modern evolution of our ancient survival mechanism that's wreaking havoc on our health and happiness.This eye-opening exploration takes you deep into the physiology of stress, explaining how everyday emotional reactions trigger the same hormonal cascade as life-threatening dangers. When someone comments on your appearance or questions your choices, your body responds as if facing a predator – perspiring, breathing shallowly, increasing heart rate, and even preparing your blood to clot before you're injured. The consequences of repeatedly activating this response are far more serious than momentary discomfort.davidji and Elizabeth share their most powerful "stress hacks" for instantly regulating your nervous system, including the "Fill Her Up, Top It Off" breathing technique that signals safety to your heart's natural pacemaker, and the "16-Second Reset" that breaks thought patterns and brings you back to the present moment. For those with trauma histories, they offer grounding practices that create safety before meditation, emphasizing the importance of options and awareness of your surroundings.Beyond formal techniques, discover how simple lifestyle adjustments – spending time in nature, taking walks, incorporating even five minutes of yoga daily, and maintaining a consistent meditation practice – can create what David calls "a parachuted life." Experience the immediate relief of Nadi Shodhana (alternate nostril breathing) and the powerful energy release of the "Ah" mantra as demonstrated live in the episode.Ready to transform those reactive moments into opportunities for presence and connection? These accessible practices don't just protect your health – they create the foundation for experiencing life with greater joy, clarity, and authenticity. Try them today and notice how quickly your perspective shifts from threat to possibility.Our nervous system's fight-flight response evolved from physical dangers to emotional triggers, causing the same harmful physiological changes and potentially leading to health issues when repeatedly activated.• Evolution of fight-flight response from physical to emotional triggers• Physiological changes during fight-flight: perspiration, shallow breathing, increased heart rate• Suppression of non-essential functions like immune system and digestion during stress• Emotional triggers can cause the same hormonal cascade as physical threats• "Fill Her Up, Top It Off" breathing technique to instantly reset your nervous system• The "16-Second Reset" technique to break thought patterns and return to present moment• Trauma-informed meditation approaches that create safety through grounding• Importance of giving options when guiding others through mindfulness practices• Simple lifestyle changes: nature time, walking, yoga, and consistent meditATTENTION: Elizabeth is coming to Ireland! Click this link to join the retreat! We transform the world by transforming ourselves.Share this podcast with your friends, loved ones, and workmates. Visit davidji.com & elizabethwinkler.com for additional meditation & healing resources.Big shoutout to the amazing Jamar Rogers for creating such powerful music and lyrics for the official song of The Shadow & The Light Podcast!

Send us a text to let us know how this episode impacted you. The Law of Attraction isn't just New Age philosophy—it's a fundamental principle operating in our lives whether we recognize it or not. davidji and Elizabeth Winkler dive deep into how this universal law actually works, exploring the fascinating relationship between attraction and distraction."Everything's frequency," Elizabeth explains, introducing her powerful "seven, seven, and seven" concept—the seven people you spend time with most, seven places you frequent, and seven behaviors you engage in regularly all contribute to your energetic resonance. This frequency directly influences what you attract into your life.In a breakthrough moment, they discover that attraction and distraction are opposite sides of the same coin. When we're distracted, we create static in our energy field like splashing in a still lake. True manifestation happens from stillness—from being present enough to direct our attention deliberately.davidji shares a compelling story about a friend who, after dating three married men, wrote down that she wanted "an unmarried man." She got exactly that—a man who wouldn't commit exclusively to her. Her intention came from fear rather than clarity about what she truly desired, demonstrating how our emotional state profoundly affects what we manifest.The hosts explore five meditation approaches that strengthen your "attention muscle": mindfulness, mantra meditation, body scanning, guided visualization, and embodied practices like metta. Finding the right practice allows you to move from distraction to conscious creation.Ready to transform how you manifest? Try Elizabeth's "seven, seven, and seven" exercise to evaluate your current resonance, then use meditation to clarify what your heart truly longs for. As David reminds us, "If the universe is inviting you to take a step, take that step and see what's next."davidji and Elizabeth Winkler explore the Law of Attraction as a real, energetic phenomenon that manifests through stillness, presence, and intentional focus.• Everything is frequency, and our energy is influenced by the seven people we spend time with most, seven places we frequent, and seven behaviors we engage in regularly• Attraction and distraction are opposite sides of the same coin—distraction creates static in your energy field while stillness allows for conscious creation• Meditation strengthens your attention muscle, allowing you to direct your awareness deliberately rather than being pulled into worry or fear• Five meditation approaches that might work for different people: mindfulness, mantra meditation, body scanning, guided visualization, and embodied practices• Manifestation must come from trust and love rather than fear and desperation—what you attract depends on your emotional state• Being "drawn" to something feels different than being "driven"—it's a magnetic pull that emerges from listening rather than forcing• Ask sacred questions like "Who am I?" or "What does my heart truly long for?" to spark deeper connection with your authentic desiresCheATTENTION: Elizabeth is coming to Ireland! Click this link to join the retreat! We transform the world by transforming ourselves.Share this podcast with your friends, loved ones, and workmates. Visit davidji.com & elizabethwinkler.com for additional meditation & healing resources.Big shoutout to the amazing Jamar Rogers for creating such powerful music and lyrics for the official song of The Shadow & The Light Podcast!

Send us a text to let us know how this episode impacted you. The journey back to wholeness begins with understanding our deepest longings. davidji opens this profound conversation by proposing longing as our earliest post-womb memory – that immediate yearning to return to a place where everything was perfect, where our mother's heartbeat was our constant companion.Elizabeth Winkler shares how longing manifested in her life after losing her mother, revealing a universal truth: "The longing out is actually a call to go within." This simple yet revolutionary perspective transforms how we understand our cravings for connection, wholeness, and unconditional love.As the conversation unfolds, we discover that what appears to be longing for future experiences often masks our desire to recreate that primal state of being completely held and cared for. Whether it's craving a specific food that reminds us of childhood or fantasizing about an idealized family life, these yearnings point to something deeper – our search for the "four A's": attention, affection, appreciation, and acceptance.The hosts introduce a powerful reframe through the acronym WOMB: Wisdom Of My Becoming. Rather than seeing the womb as merely a physical space we've left behind, they suggest we can access this "womb wisdom" within ourselves through present-moment awareness. This shift allows us to transform longing from a painful experience of lack into a doorway to self-discovery.Elizabeth shares insights from her therapy practice, illustrating how holding onto fantasies of how things "should be" prevents us from embracing the beautiful messiness of what actually is. Meanwhile, David offers practical wisdom about communication patterns that poison our relationships when we make assumptions rather than asking clarifying questions.The conversation culminates in a powerful reminder from the Bhagavad Gita: "Yogasta kuru Karmani" – "establish yourself in the present moment and then perform action". For when we're truly present, there is no fear and no longing – only the infinite possibility of becoming.Next time you feel that familiar ache of yearning, pause and ask: What wisdom is this longing trying to reveal? What am I being called to embody or create? The answer might just lead you home to yourself.Longing is embedded in humankind's DNA, stemming from our first experience of separation when we leave the womb and instantly begin craving that safe, connected state where all our needs were met.• Longing often manifests as looking outward but is actually a call to go within• Our first memories after birth may be of longing to return to the safety of the womb• Whether longing for past or future, we're seeking the memory of our wholeness• WOMB: Wisdom Of My Becoming - a way to understand the present moment's power• Fantasies of how things "should be" prevent us from embracing what actually is• Asking questions rather than making assumptions helps navigate feeling disrespected• We poison ourselves with assumptions about others' intentions toward us• Longing isn't a problemATTENTION: Elizabeth is coming to Ireland! Click this link to join the retreat! We transform the world by transforming ourselves.Share this podcast with your friends, loved ones, and workmates. Visit davidji.com & elizabethwinkler.com for additional meditation & healing resources.Big shoutout to the amazing Jamar Rogers for creating such powerful music and lyrics for the official song of The Shadow & The Light Podcast!

Send us a text to let us know how this episode impacted you. What happens when we face our deepest betrayals—whether they're inflicted by others or emerge from our own self-betrayal? This raw, heartfelt conversation between Elizabeth and davidji explores the transformative journey from betrayal to healing, offering profound insights on reclaiming our power through pain.Elizabeth reveals how self-betrayal lies at the core of our suffering: "The ego really is just a self-betrayal. When we go into our ego, we are not being true to ourself." From perfectionism that masks deep self-loathing to ignoring our inner knowing, we betray ourselves in countless ways before we ever betray others. This perspective doesn't absolve responsibility for hurting others, but reveals the deeper healing needed.The hosts delve into why we avoid difficult truths, fearing that honesty will "change the fabric of the universe forever." This fear keeps us trapped in patterns of deception that only grow more painful with time. As Elizabeth eloquently summarizes with her powerful acronym: "Secrets hold all my energy/evolution/empathy"—S.H.A.M.E.Perhaps most moving is their exploration of lost innocence through Billy Collins' poem "On Turning Ten," capturing the universal moment when we realize "there was nothing under my skin but light" gives way to "I skin my knees. I bleed." This loss happens repeatedly throughout life with each betrayal or disappointment we face.Yet within this pain lies profound opportunity. "The wound is the way," Elizabeth reminds us. By walking through our suffering rather than around it, we can transform our deepest pains into compassion, power, and purpose. What once felt agonizing becomes, with a different understanding, the very catalyst for our healing and elevation.Ready to transform your own wounds into wisdom? Listen now and discover how the alchemy of pain can become your greatest teacher.We explore how betrayal—especially self-betrayal—can become the foundation for our greatest healing and personal growth when we're brave enough to face it directly.• Self-betrayal lies at the root of many relationship problems and forms of suffering• Perfectionism often masks deep self-loathing and becomes a form of self-betrayal• People-pleasing is self-betrayal because we're not being authentic with ourselves or others• We avoid difficult conversations because we fear shattering illusions or changing relationships forever• "Secrets hold all my energy/evolution/empathy" – an acronym for SHAME that keeps us stuck• The fear of being changed by truth-telling prevents us from healing and growing• Loss of innocence happens repeatedly throughout life with each betrayal or disappointment• Billy Collins' poem "On Turning Ten" captures the universal experience of lost innocence• We connect not through perfection but through our shared brokenness and vulnerability• "The wound is the way" – only by walking through pain can we reclaim our power and true self• Life's most painful moments can become quantum leap opportunities for transformationATTENTION: Elizabeth is coming to Ireland! Click this link to join the retreat! We transform the world by transforming ourselves.Share this podcast with your friends, loved ones, and workmates. Visit davidji.com & elizabethwinkler.com for additional meditation & healing resources.Big shoutout to the amazing Jamar Rogers for creating such powerful music and lyrics for the official song of The Shadow & The Light Podcast!