Sex With Emily

The Hidden Power of Sexual Language with Amanda Montell

Aug 23, 2025
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Amanda Montell
In this insightful discussion, linguist Amanda Montell, author of "Word Slut," uncovers how patriarchal language shapes our sexual experiences. She critiques terms like "penetration," which reinforce male perspectives, and highlights why euphemisms can hinder authentic expression. The conversation covers the reclamation of gendered language, including the shift towards empowering terminology and new words embraced by transgender communities. Listeners gain valuable advice on navigating safe sex talks, emotional intimacy, and breaking free from toxic relationship cycles.
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INSIGHT

Language Frames The Act

  • English frames sex from a penis perspective by using words like "penetration" instead of envelopment.
  • Amanda Montell shows language shapes power dynamics and normalizes violent metaphors around sex.
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Anatomy Is Linguistically Biased

  • Medical and slang definitions often describe vaginas as empty receivers and penises as weapons.
  • Montell argues these linguistic metaphors reinforce patriarchal views and erase fuller sexual experiences.
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Slang Reveals Cultural Values

  • Genital slang maps gendered values: penises get weapon metaphors while vaginas get hollow, disparaging names.
  • Montell emphasizes that lacking empowering language makes it hard for society to value those bodies.
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