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1926: The Best “Worst” Advice on Helping Kids Learn to Help Themselves by Rachel Stafford of Hands Free Mama on Letting Your Kids Fight Their Own Battles

Oct 13, 2023

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Rachel Stafford, author of Hands Free Mama, discusses the conflicting advice on helping kids become independent learners. She emphasizes the value of allowing young adults to problem solve and teaches children to seek community and resources for help. Stafford explores the best and worst advice on helping kids learn to help themselves, promoting autonomy and responsibility, and relinquishing unnecessary control.

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Giving young adults space to problem-solve on their own can foster confidence and independence.

Teaching children to seek support from their immediate community promotes independence and creates a supportive environment.

Deep dives

The Importance of Delayed Response

During a summer orientation for college parents, the faculty advisor suggested not responding immediately to a college freshman's text about a problem they're having. Although uncomfortable and against the author's instinct to help immediately, the rationale behind the advice was to give the young adult space to problem-solve on their own. The author initially resisted the advice but later found a personal example that shed light on its effectiveness: when she couldn't accompany her daughter to a swimming competition due to illness, her daughter successfully navigated the trip and gained newfound confidence and independence.

Introduction

2min

Learning the Value of Allowing Young Adults to Problem Solve

3min

Teaching Children to Seek Community and Resources for Help

2min

The Best Worst Advice On Helping Kids Learn To Help Themselves

4min

Rachel Stafford of Hands Free Mama talks about the best "worst" advice on helping kids learn to help themselves

Episode 1926: The Best “Worst” Advice on Helping Kids Learn to Help Themselves by Rachel Stafford of Hands Free Mama on Letting Your Kids Fight Their Own Battles

Rachel Macy Stafford has one goal: help people choose love as much as humanly possible. She is the New York Times best-selling author of Hands Free Mama, Hands Free Life, Only Love Today and Live Love Now. Rachel is also a certified special education teacher and inspiring speaker. Millions find solace and direction in her monthly blog posts at handsfreemama.com and in her supportive online community, The Hands Free Revolution.

Rachel’s work has been featured on CNN, Good Morning America, TODAY, Global News, TIME, and other print and online media sources. She loves taking long walks, baking, and helping out at cat shelters and visiting nursing home residents. Rachel lives in the south with her husband and two daughters who inspire her daily.

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