Episode 244: Dating (feat. Kait Warman and JJ Tomlin)
Dec 10, 2023
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Dating experts Kait Warman and JJ Tomlin discuss a wide range of topics including changing last names, meeting with an exorcist, spiritual warfare, the reality of being single, and the importance of choosing a partner who loves Jesus. They also emphasize the need for constructive conversations online and the rise of dating choices in today's society.
Chemistry and initial attraction should not overshadow a person's character and commitment to their faith when assessing potential partners.
Marriage is a refining process that requires communication, vulnerability, and a commitment to personal growth.
Finding a partner should involve choosing someone who is committed to their faith and displays character, reliability, and accountability.
Deep dives
Becoming Something: Dating with Intention
Dating with intention is emphasized, but it is important to assess potential partners over time rather than rushing into a committed relationship. Chemistry and initial attraction should not overshadow a person's character and commitment to their faith. It is crucial to find a partner who genuinely loves and follows Jesus, looks out for red flags, and evaluates the fruits of their life, including their relationships, service, and character. While chemistry is important, it should not be the sole determining factor in choosing a partner. Compatibility in faith and values should be prioritized.
Navigating Marriage and Sanctification
Marriage is a refining process that reveals both strengths and weaknesses in a relationship. It is crucial to understand that healing and personal growth continue even after getting married. The goal is to become more like Christ, and challenges in marriage can facilitate that process. Communication, vulnerability, and a commitment to personal growth are essential in navigating the challenges and growth opportunities that arise in marriage.
Choosing a Partner and Complementing Each Other
Choosing a partner should involve finding someone who complements and supports personal growth. Both partners should bring strengths and weaknesses to the relationship. It is crucial to eliminate the idea of finding a partner who fits a perfect box and instead choose someone who is committed to their faith and displays character, reliability, and accountability. Being open to unexpected relationships and adjusting preferences can lead to a more compatible and fulfilling partnership.
Knowing the Person's Faith and Character
When assessing a potential partner's faith and character, it is important to observe their actions and involvement in their faith community. While knowing someone's spiritual journey might take time, observing their relationships and how they serve others can provide insight into their commitment to Jesus. Chemistry and attraction should not overshadow discerning whether the person's faith is genuine and integrated into their daily life.
The Importance of Time and Assessing Compatibility
Taking time to get to know a potential partner before committing to a relationship is essential. Rushing into a relationship solely based on chemistry can lead to overlooking potential red flags and incompatibility in values and goals. It is crucial to observe and assess the person's character, spiritual journey, and alignment with personal values before committing to a serious relationship.
In this week’s episode, JP sits down with our friends from the Heart of Dating Podcast! They have a wide ranging conversation on all things dating. If you’re single or dating, you don’t want to miss this episode!
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