Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships 164 - The Relationship Escalator & Solo Polyamory (with author Amy Gahran
Mar 27, 2018
In this discussion, journalist and author Amy Gahran, known for her insights on solo polyamory, shares her thoughts on stepping off the conventional relationship escalator. She challenges societal norms about intimacy, discussing how individuals can create their own definitions of love. The conversation highlights the intricacies of solo polyamory, including autonomy, societal stigma, and communication strategies. Amy also dives into generational shifts in relationship perceptions, celebrating diverse connections that go beyond traditional romantic frameworks.
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Understanding the Relationship Escalator
- The relationship escalator is a set of social norms defining progressive steps to an exclusive, cohabitating, 'forever' relationship.
- It is deeply ingrained and feels like a natural momentum but is only one option among many.
Monogamy Stigma and Alternatives
- Monogamy is the '800 pound gorilla' of social stigma against non-monogamous relationships.
- Changing focus to non-nesting relationships might reduce stigma and make the concept more accessible.
Defining Solo Polyamory
- Solo polyamory means choosing to keep one's life infrastructure separate from intimate partners, including housing and finances.
- It is not defined solely by relationship status but by this autonomy and independence.
