The Sabrina Zohar Show 152: What Is Disorganized Attachment and How It Shows Up in Dating and Relationships
Jul 25, 2025
Discover the complex world of disorganized attachment, where love and fear clash in chaotic ways. Learn how this attachment style manifests in dating, causing emotional whiplash and push-pull dynamics. Delve into the neuroscience behind these behaviors and gain tools for navigating relationships better. Understand the roots of emotional struggles, emphasizing the need for self-awareness and empathy. Explore real-life examples to break free from harmful patterns and find healthier connections.
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Roots of Disorganized Attachment
- Disorganized attachment forms when a caregiver is both a source of safety and threat, causing confusion about love and danger.
- This creates a nervous system struggle between needing love and fearing it, resulting in push-pull dynamics.
Amygdala's Role in Attachment
- The amygdala triggers threat responses much faster than the brain's logical centers, causing emotional dysregulation.
- Even in safe relationships, this hyperactive alarm system can cause disproportionate anxiety or withdrawal.
Hot and Cold Dating Experience
- Sabrina dated someone with disorganized attachment who acted hot and cold, showing affection then withdrawing quickly.
- This person passionately pursued love but panicked when reciprocated, illustrating core disorganized fears.