Your Thoughts Are Lying to You—How to Break Free from Negative Thinking For Good | Marisa Peer (Fan Fav)

Jul 1, 2025

Marisa Peer, a renowned therapist and author, is back to discuss the immense power of our thoughts in shaping our lives. She reveals how negative self-talk stems from unmet emotional needs and offers transformative strategies to rewrite those beliefs. From understanding procrastination as a fear of rejection to enhancing self-worth through positive affirmations, Marisa provides actionable insights for overcoming mental barriers. Tune in for her tips on using language to empower yourself and build lasting confidence.

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INSIGHT

Thoughts Shape Feelings And Reality

Your thoughts control your feelings, which dictate your actions and life outcomes.
Changing your thoughts is easier and can quickly change your entire life experience.

ADVICE

Use Language To Shape Reality

Use positive language to change how you feel about situations.
Replace harmful words like "killing me" with gentler phrases like "challenging" to reshape your reality.

INSIGHT

Thoughts Affect Body Physiology

Thoughts trigger physical reactions in the body, like blushing or arousal.
The mind interprets words literally, so negative phrases can cause real physical symptoms.

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This is a Fan Fav episode. Taking back control over your mind, and ultimately your life, starts with understanding just how powerful your thoughts really are. In this episode, I sit down with the legendary Marisa Peer—therapist, author, and creator of Rapid Transformational Therapy—to unpack the roots of negative self-talk, why so many of us default to self-criticism, and the three core needs that shape our confidence, purpose, and relationships.

Marisa doesn’t just deliver theory—she gives practical language shifts, transformative childhood insights, and actionable strategies for catching, questioning, and rewriting the beliefs that hold women back. Truth: If you’ve ever struggled with feeling “not enough,” procrastination, anxiety, or toxic relationship patterns, this is your blueprint for breaking the cycle and creating a new, empowered story.

SHOWNOTES

How thoughts—not feelings—lay the foundation for your actions and life outcomes
00:03:47 – Why your words literally shape your reality (and body!)
00:08:38 – Understanding our hardwired pull toward the familiar—and how to make self-love natural
00:11:36 – The three essential needs every child (and adult) must fulfill: love, significance, purpose
00:26:30 – How to withstand negativity from others and train your brain to protect its own peace
00:28:52 – Procrastination decoded: Why we fear rejection and how to break free
00:35:21 – Using language to empower children (and yourself) through any crisis
00:54:08 – Discovering the “what lies beneath” method to tackle self-sabotage at its root
01:04:13 – The power of words: Why “retreat” serves you better than “lockdown”
01:11:43 – A real-life exercise: Changing the narrative in your mind and watching your reality shift

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