073: Be Kind To Your Attachment Strategy and Nervous System
Oct 5, 2023
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Cyd and Geoff discuss the importance of being compassionate towards our engrained attachment strategies and how they impact our nervous systems. They explore the influence of past experiences on neural connections and behaviors, advocating for self-awareness and aligning actions with spiritual intentions. The conversation also delves into the power of choice, habit formation, and decision-making processes, emphasizing personal growth and following a Jesus-centered journey.
Understanding attachment strategies shapes our nervous systems and behavior.
Self-compassion and empathy are crucial for personal growth and reflection on behaviors.
Deep dives
Shaping Our Nervous Systems through Attachment Strategies
Our attachment strategies significantly shape our nervous systems, influencing our choices and behaviors. Individuals may often blame themselves for repeated patterns of behavior, not considering how these are deeply rooted in their bodies. Understanding the connection between attachment strategies and our nervous systems is crucial for self-reflection and personal growth.
Nervous System Development and Prioritization of Environmental Cues
During childhood, our nervous systems develop in response to the value systems in our environments. Whether prioritizing rules and consequences or social-emotional cues, our brains build neural connections based on environmental cues. This early shaping impacts our decision-making processes and how we perceive and react to the world around us.
Reflecting on Choices and Developing Compassion
Reflecting on our behaviors and choices allows us to uncover the motives behind our actions. By understanding what we gain from certain responses, we can cultivate self-compassion and empathy. Recognizing the pain caused by our actions and considering the discomfort of positive change leads to personal growth and alignment with values, even if it involves letting go of old self-perceptions.
When reactions shoot out of us that we regret, then what do we do? Do you blame or berate yourself? Do you shame and shout at yourself? Too often we are unkind to ourselves in situations like this.
But instead of this, we need to cultivate compassion (and build understanding) for the attachment strategies that have (literally) shaped our nervous systems, which fire semi-automatically when we are stressed out.
In this episode, Cyd and Geoff Holsclaw talk about being kind to your engrained attachment strategy (commonly called attachment styles) and how these strategies shape your nervous system.
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