

271: Why It’s Actually Good to “Settle” in Love | Feat. Oliver Burkeman
24 snips Nov 6, 2024
Oliver Burkeman, author of "Meditation for Mortals" and "4,000 Weeks," shares his enlightening views on love and life. He advocates for the benefits of 'settling' in relationships, emphasizing the trade-offs and personal growth involved. The conversation dives into overcoming perfectionism and the importance of embracing flaws and limitations. Burkeman also highlights the power of intuition over reason and the need to remain present while navigating life's complexities. Enjoy insights that challenge typical views on happiness and fulfillment!
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Settle for Love
- Embrace "settling" in relationships by accepting trade-offs.
- Recognize that every relationship choice means forgoing other possibilities.
The Illusion of No Trade-offs
- "Settling" simply means accepting inherent downsides in any choice.
- Choosing not to commit is still a choice with consequences.
The 70-80% Partner
- When considering a "70-80%" partner, recognize that good enough can still be great.
- Trust your intuition when reasoning reaches its limits in love.