

333. The psychology of 'haters'
25 snips Sep 16, 2025
Dive into the messy emotions of hate and its intriguing psychology. Discover why hating can feel good and how it connects to group identity and insecurities. Explore the dark side of negativity, including the role of internet trolls and the psychological toll of gossip. Learn why our harshest critics often come from those closest to us, and gain insights on transforming negativity into motivation. This exploration of hate offers valuable coping strategies to deal with both personal feelings and online criticism.
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Why Hate Feels Good
- Hate is not inherently evil; it signals values, insecurities, and social pressures.
- Its forbidden nature and intensity makes indulging in hate feel cathartic and rewarding.
Gossip As Social Intelligence
- Gossip evolved as social intelligence to share reputational information and enforce group norms.
- It can protect people and bond groups, not just harm reputations.
Friend Warns Another About A Bad Date
- Jemma relates a friend warning another woman about a dangerous date as protective gossip.
- The exchange shows gossip can prevent harm and provide practical safety information.