We Can Do Hard Things Maybe We CAN Be Loved w/o Being Known: Ashley C. Ford
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Dec 11, 2025 
Ashley C. Ford, author of the bestselling memoir Somebody's Daughter, returns for a heartfelt discussion on love, trauma, and emotional resilience. She candidly explores the misconception that being loved equals being known and offers insights on navigating misunderstandings in relationships. Ashley emphasizes the importance of steady friendships and the delicate balance of supporting loved ones in pain without losing oneself. Her reflections on vulnerability and community are uplifting, making this conversation a must-listen for anyone seeking deeper connection.
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Clarity Anxiety Drives Conversation Style
- Ashley recognizes her intense need for clarity comes from a fear of being misunderstood and misinterpreted.
- That fear drives anxious curiosity which sounds different from excited curiosity and often triggers outsized reactions.
Marriage As A Mutual Garden
- Ashley shares how Kelly's direct observations once triggered her defensive avoidance and anger.
- Over time they matched effort, learned to trust his seer role, and rebuilt connection like tending a garden.
Manage Inner Voices, Then Act
- Hear all the voices in your head, then decide the best path forward as the leader of the space.
- Apologize for outsized reactions and plan concrete ways to handle triggers next time.
