Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon Mailbag Episode! Rebuilding After Infidelity
Aug 26, 2025
Listeners dive into the emotional turmoil of infidelity, exploring the shame and trauma that often follows betrayal. A question about jealousy post-affair reveals the complexities of trust rebuilding. The challenges faced by an affair partner highlight the struggle for honesty in secretive relationships. With insights into cognitive dissonance, the discussion encourages self-awareness and personal accountability. The emphasis on healing together prepares listeners for a journey toward restoration and growth in their relationships.
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Infidelity Often Triggers Trauma
- Finding out about a partner's infidelity is often traumatic and can overwhelm coping strategies.
- Many betrayed partners meet PTSD criteria and commonly experience shame as part of that trauma.
Shame Is Entwined With Betrayal
- Shame and trauma are deeply entwined and shame frequently follows betrayal.
- Research shows a strong correlation between PTSD symptoms and shame in betrayed partners.
Reframe Shame As A Symptom
- Reframe shame as a symptom of trauma rather than a personal failure.
- Treat shame like a marker of what you're dealing with to reduce self-blame and open healing.