Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

Anger, Sadness, Fear: Showing Our Emotions to Our Kids

Mar 3, 2020

Janet, an expert in modeling self-regulation and healthy emotional expression, dives deep into the complexities of showing emotions to kids. She addresses whether it's beneficial or unsettling for parents to express vulnerabilities like anger and sadness. Janet emphasizes the importance of balancing authenticity with guidance and fostering open communication. The conversation also touches on navigating parental confidence while understanding children's emotional needs, providing insightful tips for healthier emotional development.

17:45

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Janet

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Quick takeaways

Parenting authentically involves modeling emotional expression, teaching children that feelings like sadness and anger are valid and natural.

Managing emotional expression, especially anger, ensures that children are not overwhelmed, fostering secure environments for emotional growth.

Deep dives

The Role of Authenticity in Parenting

Fostering authenticity in children is essential, and parents should model healthy emotional expression. Demonstrating emotions like sadness or anger can help children understand that all feelings are valid and natural. For instance, when parents experience and verbalize their feelings, such as stating, 'I’m feeling sad because of something that happened at work,' kids learn to articulate and accept their own emotions. This practice not only helps children feel secure but also equips them with vital emotional skills for their future interactions.

Intro

5min

Modeling Emotions: Balancing Vulnerability and Guidance

14min

Navigating Parental Confidence and Child Emotions

3min

Is it okay to show emotion to our kids? Is it helpful? Too unsettling? A parent has questions for Janet about modeling self-regulation and healthy emotional expression to children. She writes: “These feel like life skills that are harder to explain to your child but can be shown in practice.” So, this mom wants to be authentic, but she also wonders if exposing her own human vulnerabilities through crying or anger would be too disturbing. "I would really value your thoughts to help unravel this contradiction in my mind."

For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership if you use this link: adbl.co/2OBVztZ.

Paperbacks and e-books are also available at Amazon, Google Play, Barnes & Noble and Apple Books.

Janet's exclusive audio series "Sessions" is available for download. This is a collection of recorded one-on-one consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (www.SessionsAudio.com).

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