The Jefferson Fisher Podcast How to Shut Down Gaslighting Without Escalating
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Dec 16, 2025 Confusion is a cunning weapon in tough conversations, skillfully used to evade accountability. Learn how to identify genuine confusion versus strategic manipulation by recognizing red flags like circular talk and vague language. Discover the power of headlines to clarify discussions and stop detail-driven disputes in their tracks. Jefferson also emphasizes the importance of distinguishing facts from feelings to regain control. Slow the conversation down and expose fake confusion, ensuring clear communication without escalating conflict.
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Confusion As A Deliberate Tactic
- Confusion is often weaponized in conversations to avoid accountability and derail clarity.
- Jefferson Fisher explains that many moments of 'what is happening?' are intentional, not accidental.
Depositions Reveal Tactical Confusion
- Jefferson Fisher describes deposing witnesses who use confusion to avoid accountability when under scrutiny.
- He reports witnesses often answer direct questions with counter-questions like 'What do you mean?'.
Willingness To Learn Reveals Intent
- Distinguish genuine confusion from strategic confusion by someone's willingness to learn.
- Fisher says teachability signals real confusion while strategic confusion aims to keep both parties stuck.