The Connected Life 332: Why You Push Love Away
May 12, 2025
Discover the tangled web of disorganized attachment styles and how they create mixed signals in relationships. The hosts unpack emotional incest, boundaries, and the chaos of wanting closeness while fearing intimacy. Personal stories reveal how childhood trauma shapes our connections. Learn about the internal struggles of feeling inadequate and the journey towards healthier relationships. This enlightening discussion offers hope for clarity and healing, guiding listeners towards secure connections and self-awareness.
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Disorganized Attachment Explained
- Disorganized attachment means ping-ponging between anxious and avoidant tendencies.
- You want closeness but fear it, feeling trapped between wanting connection and wanting safety alone.
Abi's Emotional Incest Experience
- Abi experienced emotional incest where her mother used her as a confidant and source of emotional needs.
- This caused boundary confusion and panic, making love both precious and threatening.
Double Bind of Disorganized Attachment
- Disorganized attachment creates a double bind: desiring connection but sensing threat from the same person.
- This causes paralysis and confusion as neither intimacy nor independence feels safe.