With The Perrys Loving People When You Don't Want To With Toni Collier
Aug 11, 2025
Join Toni Collier, author, speaker, and counselor passionate about fostering deep community, as she discusses the complexities of relationships in today’s world. She shares insights from her book, emphasizing how past pain can hinder our ability to connect with others. Toni highlights the significance of trust and vulnerability in healing, while navigating love, betrayal, and the need for healthy boundaries. The conversation inspires listeners to embrace community, fostering genuine connections even in the face of personal struggles.
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Detached Childhood Shaped Her Friendships
- Toni Collier grew up detached; her mother was sick and her father was alcoholic, so she kept relationships surface-level.
- She treated friends as replaceable to avoid revealing pain and long-term attachment.
Identity In Christ Enabled Deeper Bonds
- Toni Collier says becoming a Christian changed how she viewed herself and her worthiness for deep relationships.
- Grounding identity in Christ allowed her to seek and accept godly people who could see her pain.
Jesus Modeled Close Circles
- Toni Collier points to Jesus bringing inner circles to model relational depth for us.
- If God incarnate invited close friends, we should expect to need people to complete our purpose.
