Ep 19 - Why Real Leaders Don’t Control — The F3 Guide to Freedom, Feedback, & Faith | The Whetstone

📝 Summary

In this raw and real conversation, we dive into:➤ What to do when a guy goes rogue at a workout➤ Why “modify is necessary” isn’t a license for chaos➤ How “I Am Third” changes everything about leadership➤ What it means to truly welcome all men — even the ones that frustrate us➤ How F3’s leadership model defies modern control-based systems✨

Highlights

✅ The power of influence vs. the illusion of control

✅ The Mother-in-Law Principle for handling difficult people

✅ Why feedback must start with self-awareness

✅ The battle between rules and grace in men’s lives

✅ What real servant leadership looks like in the gloom

🔊 Sound Bites

🧦 “Life’s too short to wear crappy socks.”

🛑 “We don’t have rules. We have good practices.”

🗣 “You destroy your enemies by making them your friends.”

🔥 “The answer to bad leadership isn’t no leadership — it’s better leadership.”

🫂 “I am third: Serve your Creator. Serve others. Then yourself.”

⏱ Time Stamps

00:01 – Sock Talk & Intro

02:10 – F3 Gear Store & Shirts That Matter

06:23 – Feedback, Conflict, and Role Play

07:23 – Rogue Pax: Modify, Disrupt, or Lead?

11:08 – Why the Disclaimer Isn’t a Rule

15:30 – The Male Urge to Control Others

22:00 – The Mother-in-Law Principle

27:00 – Faith Differences & Inclusion in F3

36:00 – What It Really Means to Be “Free to Lead”

48:07 – “I Am Third” in Real Life

53:00 – Feedback, Grace & Brotherhood

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