Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and Parenting

2714: The Communication Strategy That Can Change Your Relationships by Dr. Allison Niebes-Davis on How to Find Greater Understanding

Sep 1, 2025
Transform your relationships with the power of 'I statements'! Learn how shifting the focus from blame to personal ownership can enhance communication and diffuse tensions. Explore practical strategies to express emotions healthily and engage in constructive dialogues. Whether in love or professional settings, embracing personal expression fosters deeper understanding and connection. Discover how simple changes in language can lead to transformative conversations!
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INSIGHT

I-Statements Reduce Defensiveness

  • I-statements let you describe your emotional experience without assigning blame to others.
  • This reduces defensiveness and prevents escalation during difficult conversations.
ANECDOTE

Couple Example Showing Finger-Pointing

  • Jordan and Taylor argue by using 'you' statements that assign fault and spark retaliation.
  • The exchange devolves into mutual blame and gets them nowhere.
INSIGHT

Owning Feelings Changes The Tone

  • I-statements acknowledge emotions as your own experience rather than objective facts about another person.
  • Owning feelings invites more constructive responses than blaming language.
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