Kat & Steve - When you love each other but you’re in different headspaces

Steve and I talk about a recent experience where I was  activated by something in the media. A majorly messed up story that stirred old wounds and brought up big emotion.

It wasn’t easy. I felt tender, raw, and flat. And it would’ve been so easy for Steve to pull away or take it personally but instead he stayed close, even when it wasn’t comfortable. He loved me through it by holding space for me to be exactly where I was.

We speak openly about what that looked like for both of us and how being in different headspaces doesn’t have to mean disconnection, if we’re willing to communicate from truth and not reactivity.

I also share how I told my family:
 “I’m not okay right now, but I will be. This isn’t about you. I’m just in something.”
 Because I’ve learned that shutting down or punishing the people I love because I’m in pain only adds more layers to work through.

And Steve reflects on how much that honest communication helped him stay connected to me, instead of trying to guess what was wrong or getting defensive. We talk about how far we’ve come from those reactive “What’s up your ass?” kind of moments and how we now use well-framed conversations to navigate tough emotional terrain with love and respect.

If you’re in a relationship or in a family where one person’s heaviness can easily pull the whole ship off course, this episode is for you.

It’s about holding space, taking responsibility and learning how to stay connected even when you’re not in the same headspace.

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