How to Have Shameless Sex w/ Amy Baldwin & April Lampert
Nov 7, 2023
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Amy Baldwin and April Lampert, co-hosts of the Shameless Sex podcast, join the host to discuss shameless sex. They cover topics such as being present during sex, reframing STIs, taking nude photos, and improving sex life with old and new partners. They also talk about the concept of shame in relation to STIs and sex toys, the importance of communication and boundaries, exploring preferences in the bedroom, embracing vulva diversity and self-love, and navigating non-monogamy and overcoming jealousy.
Embracing sexual pleasure and overcoming shame can transform relationships and overall well-being.
Celebrating the diversity of genital appearance challenges societal norms and promotes self-acceptance.
Open and honest communication, along with patience and support, enhances sexual experiences and fosters connection.
Deep dives
Embracing sexual pleasure and overcoming shame
The podcast episode discusses the importance of embracing sexual pleasure and overcoming shame surrounding one's desires and fantasies. The hosts emphasize that shame is a normal part of human experience, but it can be addressed and worked through. They share personal stories about their own journeys in embracing their desires and how it has transformed their relationships and overall well-being. The episode also explores the power of communication in navigating sexual preferences and boundaries with partners.
Understanding and embracing diversity in genital appearance
The podcast delves into the importance of embracing the diversity in genital appearance, specifically focusing on vulvas. The hosts highlight that every individual's vulva is unique and beautiful in its own way, challenging societal norms and stereotypes. They encourage listeners to explore and celebrate their own genitals, emphasizing that there is no 'normal' or 'ideal' when it comes to genital appearance. The episode also touches upon the significance of deconstructing shame around genital aesthetics.
Effective communication for exploring sexual desires
The podcast provides tips on effective communication when discussing and exploring sexual desires with a partner. The hosts emphasize the importance of open and honest communication outside the bedroom to create a safe space for discussing desires and fantasies. They suggest that partners should approach these conversations without judgment or shame and use non-violent communication techniques to express their needs and boundaries. By fostering healthy communication, couples can navigate their desires and enhance their sexual experiences.
Overcoming performance anxiety and being present in the moment
The podcast addresses issues of performance anxiety and being present during sexual encounters. The hosts offer suggestions for overcoming performance anxiety, such as deep breathing exercises, gentle caressing, and mindfulness techniques. They emphasize the need for partners to be patient, understanding, and supportive, helping their partner to relax and enjoy the moment. The episode highlights the importance of creating a sensory experience and drawing out pleasure, encouraging a focus on connection, pleasure, and exploration instead of rushing through the motions.
Improving Presence and Erotic Connection During Sex
One of the main ideas discussed in the podcast is the importance of being fully present and connected during sex. The hosts suggest leading by example and showing your partner what you desire or enjoy in a playful way. They emphasize the significance of combining presence with eroticism, rather than just focusing on being mindful. They share personal experiences from a somatic exercise that taught them the difference between mindful touch and erotic mindful touch. The hosts encourage couples to approach sexual experiences with a playful mindset, allowing room for mistakes and experimentation.
Exploring Non-Monogamy and Dealing with Jealousy
Another key point addressed in the podcast is an individual's desire to have sex with other people while being in a committed relationship. The hosts discuss the possibilities of open relationships and attending sex parties as outlets for exploring casual encounters. They stress the importance of trust, effective communication, and respecting boundaries in non-monogamous arrangements. They also highlight the significance of working on relationship dynamics and building a strong foundation of trust and safety before considering non-monogamy, as jealousy and insecurity can arise. The hosts acknowledge that non-monogamy is not for everyone, and individuals should choose the relationship style that aligns with their desires and boundaries.
I get asked all the time: what makes great sex? Well, today’s guests would argue that the best sex is shameless sex. Amy Baldwin and April Lampert, the dynamic duo behind the Shameless Sex podcast, join me today in answering all your juicy questions. From learning to identify what you really want in bed to how to take hot vulva pics and deciding whether an open relationship is right for you, Amy and April share their top tips for becoming a better lover.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
How to feel more present and embodied during sex
What “shameless sex” really means
How to improve your sex life with old and new partners
