"And There Was this Teacher" with Eric FitzMedrud - Act 2

In the second half of our conversation, Eric Fitzmedrud and I explore the intricate terrain of personal growth, relationships, and sexuality. Eric shares his journey of writing a book born from his own experiences, aimed at guiding men through the complexities of desire and intimacy. We discuss the crucial, yet often overlooked, importance of self-care for men, and the challenges of prioritizing our own well-being. Eric offers valuable insights on finding supportive men's groups that foster genuine growth rather than reinforcing outdated notions of masculinity. His perspectives on sexuality and relationships provide a fresh, nuanced take on topics many men struggle with. We conclude with a thought-provoking question that resonates long after our chat: Who would we be without our traumas, and how can we embody that person now?

Bio: 

Therapy is always about the client. Sometimes though it is nice to know a little bit about the person you are considering to be your therapist.

My identities:

• Cisgender male. My pronouns are he/him.
• My ancestries are northern European, including German, Norwegian, and Irish, and I grew up in Minnesota.
• Polyamorous and I have two committed long-term relationships.
• Bisexual/Pansexual. Though, like most bisexual people, I tend to partner with one gender, in my case, women.

I grew up in Minneapolis, where the diversity around me ignited my passion for diversity issues. After high school, I lived in India for a year while in the Rotary International Youth Exchange Program. I went to college in Colorado, where I met my wife. During college, I experienced a larger view of the world on Semester at Sea. I moved to the Bay Area in 2002 to begin my Ph.D. program in Clinical Psychology. My family and I are now settled in this area for good.

I became a licensed psychologist (PSY23669) through a circuitous route. I began with a strong interest in spirituality and human development during my undergraduate major in Religious Studies. I considered a more academic career but I realized that what I really felt called to do was work with people one-on-one. I took some prerequisite courses for a year at Loyola University in Chicago and then began my Ph.D. in 2002. I earned my Clinical Psychology Ph.D. in 2008.

I love my job. I am honored that I get to do work that I enjoy, that is meaningful, and which helps others live meaningful, connected lives. Below you will find a brief list of different positions that I have held during my career and little further down, a brief description of my therapeutic style.