The Jim Fortin Podcast Ep 176: What Do You Need To Do To Change Yourself To Be Successful?
You know what you were probably taught: When you do and achieve certain things you’ll be a success in life. You know, when you get good grades, graduate college, get a good job, get married and the list goes on.
The reality is that in most parts of the world we are taught that in order to be happy we have to do a lot of achievement-oriented things and then we spend our entire life trying to do these things that we think will create what we want in life and then we’ll be happy.
The conundrum here is that many people do things that make them unhappy so that they can have what they want in life and be happy.
Do you see how backwards that is? Many of us do a bazillion things in pursuit of happiness and the things we’re doing in that pursuit make us unhappy. Example: “I want a lot of money and to be a success and I need an MBA. I hate school and graduate school but I need to do it to get what I want so I can be happy.”
That’s insanity, to invest a large part of your life being unhappy so that you can ultimately be happy.
The truth is…we are programmed like this mentally since we were little kids. Our parents taught us that if we did a lot of things in life we could achieve more and then and only then would we have a good life and be happy. Notice here, with this broken paradigm we are set up for a lifetime on happiness based upon working in a system where we always have to achieve more so we can have that final happiness. That in itself is broken as the premise is always achieve to be happy and it’s become because once we get “there,” we’ll no longer be happy because our MO is to always have another “there.”
Happiness is a state of mind and what precedes that state of mind is awareness, and the one thing that we first have to change to be happy is the awareness of what makes us happy and unhappy.
In this episode, I discuss this entire broken cycle of existence and how most of us stay trapped in it for a lifetime. And, it does not have to be that way.
What we need to change to be happy is nothing. We learned that if we did a whole list of things then and only then would we be happy. And even that, we spend a lifetime trying to change ourselves to be happy. That is broken.
There is a better way, a happier way and I discuss it in this episode.
Transformational Takeaway: Just be.
Mentioned Resources:
EPISODE 1: “Transforming Your Life From The Inside Out”
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With Gratitude, Jim Fortin