Men’s Therapy Podcast Divorce and the Modern Man: A Survival Guide by Ralph Brewer
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Dec 15, 2025 Ralph Brewer, founder of the Help for Men Brotherhood, shares his candid story of navigating divorce and single fatherhood. He opens up about the emotional turmoil men face and how rediscovering passions like music and writing helped him heal. Brewer reveals patterns leading to divorce and emphasizes the importance of emotional support, advising men against quick rebounds. He discusses the significance of boundaries with ex-partners and stresses the need for a supportive community for those transitioning into new phases of life.
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Hobby Became A Lifeline And Mission
- Ralph Brewer coped with his brutal divorce by returning to music, writing, and starting the DadStartingOver blog.
- That hobby turned into a book, community, and a decade-long mission helping thousands of men.
Anxious Men Often Attract Avoidant Partners
- Ralph sees a repeated pattern: most men he helps are anxious and pursue avoidant partners, creating toxic chase-and-withdraw dynamics.
- He emphasizes divorce usually arises from a complex puzzle, not one simple masculine deficit.
Small Touches Matter More Than Constant Sex
- Sexual intimacy carries emotional meaning: men often want small daily signals of appreciation and connection, not constant sex.
- Simple acknowledgments like 'thank you' or cuddling restore emotional closeness.