The Art of Love With Lucia Avoidant Exes React To No Contact In Surprising Ways
Oct 1, 2025
Discover the intriguing dynamics between dismissive and fearful avoidants when faced with no contact. Learn how their childhood experiences shape their reactions and behaviors. Find out why silence can gradually break down the emotional walls of dismissive avoidants, offering hope in the waiting game. Delve into the erratic responses of fearful avoidants and the challenges of their hot-and-cold nature. Lucia provides essential strategies for maintaining effective no contact, ensuring that you wield the power in these complex relationships.
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How To Identify Their Avoidant Type
- You can tell dismissive versus fearful avoidant by relationship patterns: slow fade/ghosting points to dismissive; hot-and-cold points to fearful.
- Childhood instability or parental abandonment offers additional clues about their attachment type.
Detachment Is Their Regulation
- Dismissive avoidants regulate by detaching and often feel initial relief when you go no contact.
- Their suppression looks like strength but it eventually leaks out as memories or triggers bring emotions back.
Be Patient With Dismissive Avoidants
- Do stay silent when your dismissive avoidant ex withdraws so they must face suppressed feelings.
- Do not break no contact early or you'll rescue them from processing and lose leverage.