PsycHacks Episode 569: Man up (for the benefit of women)
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Nov 10, 2025 The discussion dives into how society's definition of masculinity often serves women, leaving men to overlook their own needs. Key concepts explore why advice for men focuses on prioritizing women's interests, while male-benefiting guidance is notably absent. A thought experiment reveals the double standards in gendered expectations, warning how these cultural norms hurt young men. The call to reclaim masculinity emphasizes valuing self-definition over societal pressures, urging men to pursue their own well-being.
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Masculinity Defined By Benefit To Women
- Orion Taraban observes that phrases like "a real man" or "man up" never instruct men to act in ways that primarily benefit men.
- He shows these commands consistently direct male behavior toward benefiting women, not men's own flourishing.
Prioritize Yourself First
- Taraban gives examples of what male-benefiting directives might look like and implies men should pursue them instead.
- He prompts men to prioritize financial independence, health, and self-respect over pleasing women.
Cultural Double Standard Revealed
- Taraban flips genders to show asymmetry: advice that demands men sacrifice for women would be denounced if reversed.
- He highlights cultural double standards that normalize male sacrifice while rejecting equivalent female-directed norms.
