ERP 021: How To Feel More Confident In Relationship

Most of have felt some level of insecurity, inadequacy or lack of confidence in relationship. Here are some tips to help you feel more capable, confident, and self-assured when relating to others:

BE AWARE OF YOUR BODY POSTURE:

• Neurochemical response to your body posture – Ted Talk by Amy Cuddy
• Shoulders back, chin up, or victory pose
• Exercise:
• Collapse your posture and look down and say "I feel sad."
• Look up and expand your chest and say "I feel sad."
• Exercise:
• Walk with confidence.
• Does it feel different?

FOCUS ON YOUR BREATH:

• Diaphragm breathing
• Anxiety comes from anticipating the future.
• Be in the moment. Mindfulness.
• Your power is now.
• Use your five senses. What do I see, smell, hear, taste, and touch?
• Slow it down
• Feel your feet on the ground and feel your body to be more centered and solid.

BALANCE YOUR THINKING

• Explore your Beliefs
• Negative bias: interpreting negatively, ignoring or overlooking the positive.
• Mind Over Mood: Change How You Feel by Changing the Way You Think
• Stress Thought Record exercise
• Check assumptions
• Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life
• Possibility that people do care, You are interesting. You are attractive. You are lovable.

In the next episode, I will offer four more ways to cultivate confidence in yourself and in relationship.

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