Don Gabor, author with over three decades of experience teaching people how to make small talk and socialize, discusses starting and sustaining conversations. He shares tips on making yourself more approachable, using body language effectively, breaking the ice, handling rejection, remembering names, keeping the conversation going, and ending a conversation.
Social skills expert Don Gabor emphasizes the importance of making small talk and socializing to build connections with people.
Don Gabor advises using open postures, maintaining eye contact, and providing a friendly smile to make oneself more approachable.
When starting a conversation, focus on shared surroundings or interests and use keywords from the conversation to transition to new topics.
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Connecting with Others through Small Talk
Don Gabor, an expert on social skills, emphasizes the importance of making small talk and socializing to build connections with people.
Overcoming Communication Challenges
Don Gabor discusses how people can feel uncomfortable in specific communication situations and suggests identifying and applying successful communication skills from other situations.
Creating Approachable Body Language
To make oneself more approachable, Don Gabor advises using open postures, maintaining eye contact, and providing a friendly smile.
Breaking the Ice and Keeping Conversations Going
When starting a conversation with someone, Don Gabor recommends focusing on shared surroundings or interests and using keywords from the conversation to transition to new topics. He also acknowledges that some people may not reciprocate questions, prompting the listener to introduce personal information to balance the conversation.
Whether sitting next to someone on the subway, mingling at a wedding, or chatting around the water cooler, chances to make conversation and new friends abound in our lives. But how do you meet and talk to people without being awkward about it?
My guest today has spent over three decades teaching people from all walks of life how to make small talk and socialize. His name is Don Gabor, and he's the author of several books, including the one we're talking about today, How to Start a Conversation and Make Friends.
We begin our conversation discussing where Don sees people have the most problems with starting and sustaining conversations, as well as whether these issues have or haven't changed over the last thirty years. Don then walks us through how you can make yourself more approachable for small talk, why body language is so key in this area, and the best way to give a handshake. We then discuss how to break the ice with someone you've just made contact with, how to handle rejection, and how to remember people's names after you meet them. Don then shares how to keep the conversation going by offering up and homing in on certain keywords. We end our conversation, with how to end a conversation.