Love Life With Matthew Hussey The “Ex Effect”: Why Your Brain Can’t Let Them Go
Sep 24, 2025
Feeling stuck on an ex? Discover how to reframe the notion of never being happy again as just an anxious thought. The discussion explores nostalgia traps and the tendency to glorify past relationships. Learn how to reclaim your agency and create new joys from old places. There’s also practical advice on dating while separating from a long marriage and recognizing the complexities of new relationships. Plus, enjoy a fun rapid-fire game evaluating post-breakup behaviors that can either help or hurt your healing journey.
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‘I’ll Never Be Happy’ Is Anxiety Not Prophecy
- The thought “I’ll never be happy again” is an anxious, catastrophic belief, not an objective truth.
- Framing it as anxiety creates distance and reduces its power over your decisions.
You’re Missing A Moment, Not A Person
- You often miss that you’re grieving a feeling from a past time capsule, not the person themselves.
- Audrey Hussey says that both people changed, so you’re mourning a moment more than the exact partner.
Take Back Your 50% And Be Adaptable
- Do reclaim the 50% you contributed to a relationship and bring that energy into new connections.
- Cultivate adaptability and be the source of your own magic instead of idolizing an ex.
