The Lavendaire Lifestyle

166: Breakup Bootcamp: Attachment, Heartbreak & Healing w/ Amy Chan

Dec 13, 2020

34:19

This one's for those looking for love, healing from lost love, or running out of love to give. Today's guest is Amy Chan, relationship expert and author of Breakup Bootcamp, sharing her wisdom on the psychology of love and relationships.

Listen on to learn why we ignore relationship red flags, what to do when you're giving more than receiving, and how to find out if your relationship will last.

In this episode we explore:

4:18 – Why do we choose wrong people? What makes the “bad boy” or “bad girl” attractive?
7:49 – How to break the cycle of choosing the wrong person
11:00 – An exercise in co-dependency and losing your sense of self
17:06 – Attachment styles 101: Secure, avoidant, or anxious?
22:53 – How to know when to let go, even when you're partner's amazing
25:08 – Regaining trust & healing from bad breakups
27:48 – How to know if they really like you, or if you should stop waiting around
30:10 – Amy's dream life, book rec, life-changing habit, best received advice & favorite part about life
31:55 – Lavi Love takeaways you should reflect on today

Amy's links:

Renew Breakup Bootcamp
Heart Hackers Club (formerly Just My Type)
Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart
Instagram

Show notes:

Quotes:

It's never just about the ex. It's recycled pain.
Hanging on to hope for someone else to change in order for you to be happy is a recipe for disaster.
We can be dating people who are amazing … but are they amazing for you? Are they the amazing fit for you?
Love is something that is created through time, getting to know someone’s character, through seeing them through different situations in life.