Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel Esther Calling - My Exes Exes Keep Ruining My Relationships
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Apr 8, 2024 
In this discussion, a woman seeks guidance from Esther Perel on overcoming trust issues rooted in a past betrayal. They explore the complexities of intimacy, the impact of an ex’s presence on current relationships, and the struggle to meet emotional needs without sacrificing one's identity. The conversation delves into familial expectations and the tension between personal beliefs and cultural norms. Esther emphasizes the importance of transparency and support systems in navigating these emotional landscapes, promoting a path towards healing and connection.
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Past Trauma Affecting Current Relationship
- The caller's ex-boyfriend cheated on her with his ex, causing trust issues.
- This past trauma resurfaced in her new relationship, where her partner was close with his ex.
Reframing the Problem
- Esther Perel reframes the issue, suggesting the core problem might not be the ex.
- She prompts the caller to consider if other close relationships or lack of prioritization were the true issue.
The Threat of the Unknown
- Perel highlights how avoiding the ex-girlfriend amplified the perceived threat.
- By not interacting with her, the caller let her loom large in her mind, fueling her insecurity.