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Playing With Fire

185 Conscious Uncoupling

Jan 4, 2025
01:02:48

Navigating the endings of relationships doesn't have to be a disaster. When it comes to consciously uncoupling, it’s about so much more than “breaking up nicely.” We want to help you reimagine what’s possible, honor what was, and create space for what comes next, even when it feels incredibly challenging.

In this episode, we talk about:

— Why conscious uncoupling requires specific ingredients, including time, willingness to grieve, and self-awareness

— The importance of creating rituals to mark relationship transitions and help process grief

— How the legal system's adversarial nature can complicate conscious uncoupling efforts

— The challenge of letting go of the desire for apologies or accountability from former partners

— Why gentleness needs to be balanced with honesty and clear boundaries

— The value of making "meta-agreements" about how you'll make future agreements, especially with co-parents

— How to handle ambiguous grief when the person is still present in your life

— The importance of having the right support system that won't fuel adversarial dynamics

— Why creating closure might look different than you initially imagined

— The balance between showing grace to yourself and your partner while maintaining healthy boundaries

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Soul Broken: A Guidebook for Your Journey through Ambiguous Grief

— Learn more about Imago Dialogue

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Music: Dance of Felt by ⁠Blue Dot Sessions

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