When everything's a battle with your three-year-old, understanding the developmental realities can transform your approach. Learn why emotional regulation, theory of mind, and language development explain those challenging behaviours, and discover three practical solutions that actually work. Plus, find out why your child might be an angel at daycare but struggle at home - and why that's actually a good sign.

Quote of the Episode: "We expect way too much of our children emotionally and not nearly enough of them physically."

Key Insights:

Emotional regulation begins developing at age 3-4
Theory of Mind develops around ages 4.5-5.5
Language limitations affect behaviour management
Different contexts (home vs daycare) create different behaviours
Connection matters more than correction
Rushing and time pressure escalate emotions
The importance of autonomy for toddler cooperation
Fun can transform routine tasks

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Action Steps for Parents:

Slow Down

Create margin in routines
Reduce rushing
Maintain calm

Build Connection

Focus on feeling seen, heard, and valued
Prioritize emotional availability
Engage in their activities

Make it Fun

Add playful elements to routine tasks
Use music and movement
Transform ordinary moments with simple games

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