How to Start Believing You Deserve More—Even If You Still Feel Broken or Ashamed | Sarah Jakes Roberts (Fan Fav)

Jul 18, 2025

In this heartfelt discussion, Sarah Jakes Roberts, a New York Times bestselling author and pastor, candidly shares her journey from teenage motherhood to spiritual empowerment. She addresses deep-seated issues of shame and self-worth, suggesting we transform our scars into wisdom. Sarah promotes confronting negative self-talk and highlights the importance of setting boundaries, even with family. With powerful insights on loving oneself through the struggles, she encourages listeners to nurture hope and reclaim their inner strength, crafting abundance from life's leftovers.

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ANECDOTE

From Teen Pregnancy to Wisdom

Sarah Jakes Roberts was pregnant at 14 and carried deep shame and fear of being seen as unworthy.
She transformed her scars into value and wisdom, learning to create from her "leftovers" and not be defined by them.

ADVICE

Purge Your Inner Poison

Let your negative thoughts and emotions out instead of hiding them, like purging poison.
Expressing and confronting toxic thoughts clears space for authenticity and transformation.

INSIGHT

Battle Lies Within Mind

The greatest enemy lies within our own minds through negative voices and insecurities.
Talking back to these thoughts and shifting to gratitude renews our mindset and builds self-worth.

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This is a Fan Fav episode. Sarah Jakes Roberts brings a raw honesty and magnetic vulnerability to this episode that truly moved me. We dive deep into some of her darkest battles—shame, self-worth, judgment, and those insidious whispers telling us we’re not enough. Sarah reveals how being pregnant at 14 and living as the very public daughter of Bishop T.D. Jakes shaped, challenged, and ultimately expanded her sense of what’s possible.

Together, we peel back the layers on toxic thinking, betrayal, loving yourself after your lowest moments, and how to transform your “leftovers” into glory. Whether you feel lost, broken, or just in need of some truth-telling wisdom, Sarah delivers it straight.

SHOWNOTES

Sarah opens up about her struggles with worthiness, shame, and identity (00:00:08)
The turning point: reframing scars as sources of wisdom instead of shame (00:02:29)
Letting the poison out: why you must confront negative self-talk instead of hiding it (00:07:46)
“The leftovers”: Sarah’s powerful analogy for creating abundance from what’s left after trauma (00:05:57)
Building self-worth from the inside out and talking back to your inner critic (00:16:19)
The impact of betrayal and reframing blame to fuel your own healing (00:33:13)
How to draw boundaries—yes, even with family—and choose who qualifies to influence you (00:37:32)
Incubating hope: how to protect and grow your inner dreams, even when no one else believes (00:25:54)
From toxic relationships to flourishing partnership: Sarah’s journey to love and protecting your space (00:18:38)
The definition of success, and daring to become the next version of yourself (00:43:00)

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Website & Community: https://womanevolve.com/

You have to check out Sarah’s work—her book, her podcast, her voice—the transformation she evokes is next level.

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