The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast 387. The Best Conflict Resolution Advice For Married Couples We Have Ever Heard!
Jul 29, 2025
Tamara Fackrell, a divorce attorney and PhD in Marriage & Family Relationships, shares her passion for helping couples thrive. She offers transformative conflict resolution strategies that can be easily implemented, emphasizing the naturalness of conflict in relationships. Tamara discusses the ABCDE rule, the importance of regular communication, and introduces tools like the 'talking square' for effective discussions. She highlights the balance between intimacy and independence and stresses the need for boundaries to foster lasting love.
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Treat Marriage Like Business
- Treat conflict resolution in marriage like a professional business environment.
- Avoid behaviors at home that you wouldn't tolerate at work, such as yelling or disrespect.
ABC's of Conflict Resolution
- Create clear engagement rules for conflict such as no swearing and giving breaks.
- Use the ABCDE method: Ask, Brainstorm, Choose, Do the plan, Examine for problem-solving.
Weekly Marriage Meetings
- Hold a weekly meeting to align schedules, express gratitude, and set expectations.
- Discuss one conflict item at a time to prevent overwhelm and build a five-to-one positivity ratio.