In this episode, Kat explores the difference between self-worth and self-esteem, emphasizing the importance of focusing on self-worth. She discusses changing mindset and believing in one's ability to achieve more in life. The chapter also delves into the power of beliefs and the importance of self-awareness and individual therapy. Additionally, there is a lighthearted discussion on social media, ads, and booking accommodations.
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Self-worth is inherent and not dependent on achievements or external factors, while self-esteem is earned and can change based on circumstances.
Challenging and potentially changing beliefs about oneself and others is essential for increasing self-worth, and individual therapy provides personalized guidance in this process.
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Building Self-Worth and Unlearning Self-Esteem
The listener asks how to gain a greater sense of self-worth and overcome the belief that they are average. The therapist explains that self-worth is inherent and not dependent on achievements or external factors. Self-esteem, on the other hand, is earned and can change based on circumstances. The therapist encourages the listener to unlearn the belief that certain attributes or achievements define their worth, and to focus on viewing themselves as inherently good. The process involves examining one's beliefs, questioning the causation versus correlation between beliefs and outcomes, and seeking individual therapy for personalized guidance.
Challenging Beliefs and Changing Perspectives
The therapist highlights the importance of becoming aware of one's beliefs about oneself and others. By questioning the validity and evidence behind these beliefs, individuals can challenge and potentially change them. This involves recognizing the difference between correlation and causation, as well as the meaning we attach to certain experiences and attributes. The therapist emphasizes the need for individual exploration and therapy to navigate these unique processes and uncover blind spots.
The Journey towards Increased Self-Worth
The therapist acknowledges that the journey towards increased self-worth requires personal engagement and participation. They emphasize that everyone is inherently worthy, and that no one is inherently better or more deserving than others. However, overcoming self-doubt and developing self-worth involves unraveling deeply ingrained beliefs and embracing new perspectives. The therapist encourages listeners to embark on this journey by asking themselves important questions, seeking support from professionals, and being open to discovering the answers they are seeking.
Couch talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that’s listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com
This week, Kat answers a question a listener sent in after listening to Monday’s episode. If people accept the love they think they can get, how do I start to believe I can get more? This turns into a conversation about the difference between self esteem and self worth and why we need to spend more time teaching others about self worth versus how to get self esteem.