PsycHacks Episode 573: Body count (beyond the number)
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Nov 24, 2025 The obsession with a woman’s 'body count' is explored, revealing why it’s a flawed metric for assessing relationship compatibility. Discover how digging into sexual history can lead to harmful consequences and why honesty around body count is often elusive. The episode also highlights the ambivalence in how women count partners and critiques the misguided link between body count and loyalty. Ultimately, it encourages a broader evaluation of relationship factors beyond mere numbers.
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Don't Root Through Her Sexual Past
- Avoid digging into a woman's sexual history because you will only find information that can disqualify and inflame jealousy.
- Orion Taraban warns that searching for reassuring evidence in the past rarely yields positive reassurance and often backfires.
Absence Of Evidence Misleads
- Absence of evidence is not evidence of absence when assessing someone's past; not finding something doesn't prove it never happened.
- Orion Taraban compares this to cancer screening: a negative result doesn't guarantee you're cancer-free.
Don't Ask If You'll Punish The Answer
- Stop asking questions you know will be lied to; punishing truth invites deception and increases risk of jealousy-driven harm.
- Orion Taraban notes women have good reasons to lie given the danger jealousy can provoke, including physical abuse.
