Good Inside with Dr. Becky

Should I Praise My Kid?

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Sep 9, 2025
Explore the surprising effects of praise on children's self-esteem and motivation. Discover why emphasizing effort over outcomes can foster intrinsic worth. Learn how to navigate the complex landscape of parental validation while cultivating genuine confidence in kids. Gain actionable strategies for supporting children through challenges, all intertwined with personal insights on family wellness. This conversation is a treasure trove for parents seeking to nurture resilience and authentic self-worth in their children.
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INSIGHT

Praise Shapes Mindset

  • Praising fixed traits like “smart” can make kids avoid challenges and fear failure.
  • Praising effort and strategies builds resilience and willingness to try hard things.
ANECDOTE

Soccer Success vs. Reading Struggle

  • Becky describes her son who excels at soccer but gives up on reading and homework.
  • The contrast illustrates how different praise patterns shape confidence across activities.
INSIGHT

External Validation Becomes A Habit

  • Repeated external validation can teach children to get self-worth from others instead of internal process.
  • That makes them dependent on applause and less resilient in private, hard tasks.
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