In the previous episode, we talked about sexual desire discrepancies, which occur when partners want different amounts of sex in a relationship. In that show, we focused on how to navigate this situation when you’re the partner with less sexual desire. Today, we’re going to focus on the flipside: what to do when you’re the partner with more sexual desire. No matter which side of the desire discrepancy you’re on, it can be a difficult situation to navigate, but there are lot of tips and strategies you can explore to help bridge the divide.
My guest today is Dr. Jennifer Vencill, an assistant professor, board certified clinical health psychologist, and AASECT certified sex therapist at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota. Dr. Vencill’s first popular press book is titled DESIRE: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating Libido Differences in Relationships, which she co-authored with Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy.
Some of the topics we discuss include:
- What is the role of gender in sexual desire discrepancies?
- What does it mean to have “high libido” anyway?
- How can looking at your own motivations for sex help manage discrepant desire?
- What are the roles of self-pleasure and consensual non-monogamy in navigating desire discrepancies?
- What can a high-desire partner do to be supportive of a partner who might have lower desire due to trauma?
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