The Psychology Podcast Vanessa Van Edwards || How to Captivate People
Apr 25, 2017
Vanessa Van Edwards, a human behavior researcher and author of "Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People," shares her journey from awkwardness to social confidence. She offers actionable strategies on improving charisma, including effective eye contact and body language. The discussion covers the complexities of attraction, emotional cues, and first impressions. Vanessa also delves into self-monitoring dynamics and the neuroscience of relationships, providing insights to elevate your social skills and connection with others.
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Vanessa's Awkward Childhood
- Vanessa Van Edwards was an awkward kid who felt safer in classrooms than playgrounds and social parties.
- She became an observant speed reader of social dynamics due to her unstable family environment.
Why Women Like Bad Boys
- People seek resources like love in relationships, sometimes leading them to unhealthy "bad boy" partners.
- Attachment patterns persist because they feel comfortable, not necessarily because they're good for us.
Defining Success with People
- Social success means having both the desire and ability to deepen relationships.
- Success involves equality and mutual connection in those relationships.