Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships 170 - Taking for Your Pleasure (with Melissa Mango and Cosmo Meens)
May 8, 2018
Join somatic sex educators Melissa Mango and Cosmo Meens as they delve into the nuances of pleasure and consent. They discuss the empowering idea of pleasurable, consent-based touching and share insights from their work at RelateCon. The conversation explores the complexities of intimacy, navigating boundaries, and the intriguing concept of consensual objectification. Listeners will learn about the importance of communication in enhancing sexual enjoyment and the profound impact of consent education on fostering healthier relationships.
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Pleasure Extends Beyond Sexuality
- Happy Touch frames consent and pleasure as a lifelong, playful practice beyond sex and accessible to families and children.
- Building bodily boundaries and mutual touch trust lets adults and kids enjoy affectionate contact safely.
Ask Who It's For Before Touch
- Ask “Who is this for?” before accepting touch to clarify purpose and consent.
- If the action is for the giver's pleasure, request a 'May I... for my pleasure' framing and set boundaries or time limits.
Wheel Of Consent Clarifies Roles
- The Wheel of Consent separates four actions: serve, take, allow, accept, clarifying who benefits.
- Murkiness arises when someone presents taking as service, which undermines honest consent.
