Habits and Hustle Episode 475: Dr. Ramani Durvasula: How Narcissists Hijack Your Mind and Why We Keep Falling for Them
Think narcissism only affects insecure or naive people? Think again. In this episode of Habits and Hustle, I talk with Dr. Ramani Durvasula who explains how narcissists manipulate even the most self-aware, high-achieving individuals.
We dive into why narcissistic relationships are so hard to leave, how gaslighting corrodes your self-trust, and the emotional price we pay for constantly managing toxic people. Whether it’s a partner, boss, parent, or friend, this episode is your guide to recognizing and protecting yourself from covert manipulation.
Dr. Ramani is a licensed clinical psychologist, bestselling author, and the internet’s go-to expert on narcissistic abuse. Her work has helped millions decode toxic dynamics through her YouTube channel, books like “Don’t You Know Who I Am?”, and expert commentary on major media outlets.
What We Discuss:
(03:22) Why narcissistic abuse happens to smart, strong people
(08:40) The subtle signs of emotional manipulation
(13:05) Why narcissists never play by the same rules
(21:55) The unique pain of having a narcissistic parent
(32:48) How to set boundaries when leaving isn’t an option
(39:12) The myth of the “narcissist who will change”
(49:20) Dr. Ramani’s tools for reclaiming your identity
(56:44) Can narcissists ever truly love or feel regret?
(01:01:15) Are you the narcissist? How to do a reality check
(01:06:30) The healing path: therapy, no-contact, and radical clarity
…and more!
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