Ask Uncut - Ungrateful Mother's Day and is the dating bar too high?
May 15, 2024
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Parenting challenges arise as the hosts discuss a toddler's Taylor Swift dance moves. Unconventional grandparent titles spark dilemma, while relationship expectations on occasions like Mother's Day are explored. Balancing hormones, product discoveries, and dating red flags also make engaging topics.
Expectant parents seek advice on addressing unconventional grandparent names diplomatically.
A woman questions a man's sincerity and emotional maturity based on his dating app activity, highlighting the importance of setting boundaries in relationships.
Navigating unconventional grandparent names and commitment issues, the podcast touches on the significance of clear communication and respect in familial and romantic relationships.
Deep dives
Naming Conundrum with Grandparents
A couple is awaiting the arrival of their first child and facing a dilemma with the grandparents who want unconventional names like Kooky and Okey. The couple finds these names strange and potentially confusing for their baby as they grow up. They seek advice on how to address this situation without hurting the grandparents' feelings but also not wanting to adopt these unusual names permanently.
Relationship Dynamics and Self-Validation
A woman discusses her relationship with a man who recently ended a marriage and has two kids. They are navigating the complexities of commitment, and his actions lead her to question his sincerity. His behavior, such as liking a photo of her friend on a dating app and providing ambiguous explanations, raises doubts about his emotional maturity and commitment. She contemplates the significance of such behavior in modern dating dynamics and questions if setting boundaries is crucial.
Grandparent Naming Preferences
Expectant parents contemplate the unconventional names, Kooky and Okey, chosen by the grandparents-to-be for their future grandparent titles. They express concerns about the potential confusion and oddity of such names for their child's relationships. Seeking advice on handling this situation diplomatically, they discuss the balance between respecting the grandparents' preferences while also considering their own discomfort with the chosen names.
Boundary Setting in Relationships
A woman shares her experience with a man who recently ended a marriage and is navigating commitment issues in their relationship. His contradictory actions, such as denying app usage while engaging with her friend on a dating app, raise questions about setting boundaries and trust. She contemplates confronting him about these discrepancies and explores the importance of clear communication and respect in relationships.
Challenging Grandparent Name Selections
A couple expecting their first child faces the challenge of unconventional grandparent names, Kooky and Okey, chosen by the soon-to-be grandparents. They express reservations about these names' oddity and potential confusion for their child. Seeking advice on addressing this issue sensitively, they consider the balance between respecting the grandparents' preferences and maintaining familial harmony.
Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deep and dark dilemmas!
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GRANDPARENTS WANT WEIRD TITLES THAT WE HATE My husband and I have a problem, we are 5 months pregnant with our first child and my in-laws have been thinking about what they want to be called. Now, I’m happy for it not to be the typical grandma and grandpa etc if they don’t want but they have just called my husband to let him know that my MIL wants to be called cougey and my FIL has picked Ockey. (I don’t know how they would be spelt but they sound like koo ghee and ock ee.) We don't like these names and think they are weird, and could be confusing for our baby when she grows up. We don’t want to hurt their feelings but we also don’t want to have to refer to them as these strange names forever. How can we approach this with them or is it something they have every right to choose on what to be called by our child?
DO I PRETEND IT'S GREAT? If a partner plans something for an event such as birthday, Mother’s Day, etc and you are disappointed, do you pretend it’s great? Or let them know you're disappointed? A couple of times I’ve expected a bit more planning from my partner and been disappointed but felt guilty for feeling this way. Are my expectations too high and is anything better than nothing? I should mention I’ve told him that I’m a sentimental person when it comes to milestones
DO I CALL BULLSHIT OR IS THIS ‘NORMAL’ THESE DAYS?
I’ve been dating a guy for 6 months (after his marriage of 2 years ago and 2 kids ended). Due to this I’ve given him space in anything too heavy about committing etc. About a month ago I asked him if he was on the apps and he said no, we haven’t had anymore “exclusive” chats. I’ve found out this week that he has liked one of my best mates pictures on hinge (who he’s met). He says it was an accident & he went on there because he was bored. Do I call bullshit on this? My male friend says that blokes need validation and until you tell them your boundaries and commit, it’s fair game. He wants to talk it through and get on the same page but I am unsure if I want to bother. I have been single for 10 years and had hopes for this. He has all the qualities that I’m looking for but he seems emotionally immature. He hasn’t told me his feelings for me yet but he clearly likes me.
Is my bar too high or is this just what we would expect nowadays?
