The Jefferson Fisher Podcast How To Talk To Someone You Completely Disagree With
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Nov 25, 2025 Discover how to engage in calm, constructive conversations with those you deeply disagree with. Learn a three-step framework: identify underlying needs instead of battling opinions, shift from proving your point to seeking understanding, and prioritize your emotional well-being. The host shares practical phrases and strategies to navigate tricky discussions, ensuring you walk away feeling proud, not frustrated—perfect armor for those holiday gatherings!
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Address The Need, Not The Opinion
- Don’t argue the opinion; identify the need underneath instead.
- Acknowledge their fear for safety or control rather than debating facts.
Opinions Hide Deeper Needs
- Opinions usually sit atop deeper needs like safety, control, or fear of change.
- Recognizing those roots lets you engage constructively instead of getting stuck on surface arguments.
Acknowledge Needs With Simple Phrases
- Acknowledge the other person’s underlying need with simple phrases like “I hear that safety is important to you.”
- Thank them or agree macro-wise without endorsing the specific opinion.