The Art of Love With Lucia 3 Tests An Avoidant Ex Will Give You Before Coming Back (Don't Fail)
Oct 15, 2025
Discover the subtle yet strategic tests avoidant exes use before considering reconciliation. Learn how to navigate emotional availability checks without overreacting. Explore the vulnerability gauge that reveals their intent through neutral responses. Uncover the significance of staying calm during cautious meetups to pass the consistency test. Passing these tests can foster a safer emotional environment, leading to commitment. Tune in for expert insights on managing relationships with avoidant partners!
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Avoidants Test For Safety, Not Power
- Avoidant partners test quietly and strategically rather than being direct.
- Their tests aim to confirm safety and avoid losing themselves, not to be cruel.
Pass The Availability Test By Staying Silent
- Do nothing to pass the first test: maintain silence and self-respect.
- Avoid chasing, posting for them, or re-liking as that signals availability without challenge.
They Crave Safety And A Subtle Challenge
- Avoidants need both emotional safety and challenge to feel secure.
- If you only provide safety without challenge, they won't feel engaged enough to return.
