This book, written by former FBI hostage negotiator Chris Voss and co-author Tahl Raz, provides a masterclass in influencing others through negotiation. It distills the Voss method, revealing skills such as establishing rapport, creating trust with tactical empathy, and transforming conflict into collaboration. The book is filled with real-life examples from Voss's career, illustrating how these techniques can be applied in both professional and personal life to achieve goals and defuse potential crises.
In 'The Defining Decade,' Meg Jay challenges the cultural narrative that the twenties are an extended adolescence or emerging adulthood. Drawing from over two decades of work with clients and students, Jay combines the latest science on the twenties with personal stories to highlight the transformative nature of this decade. The book provides tools and advice on how to make the most of one's twenties, focusing on work, relationships, personality, identity, and brain development. It emphasizes the importance of using this time effectively to set the foundation for future success in both career and personal life.
Tara Viswanathan (founder who recently sold her startup) and Alex Modon (startup founder) share their journey from a 15-minute Bumble date to marriage. They discuss Tara's systematic approach to dating (including analyzing 60 first dates), building a relationship while running startups, and their thoughts on balancing ambitious careers with starting a family. A rare glimpse into two founders making partnership work.
Modern Relationships is a podcast from Turpentine. Learn more: www.turpentine.co
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RECOMMENDED IN THIS EPISODE:
Books
The Defining Decade by Meg Jay: https://www.amazon.com/Defining-Decade-Your-Twenties-Matter/dp/0446561754
Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss: https://www.amazon.com/Never-Split-Difference-Negotiating-Depended/dp/0062407805
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TIMESTAMPS:
(00:00) Intro and Preview
(01:41) Tara's Unconventional Quest for "The One"
(05:19) Alex's Journey to Finding Love Unintentionally
(07:53) Tara's "Crazy" Playbook: Love Hacks and Radical Self-Improvement
(12:59) Lessons Learned from Countless "I Dos" (and "I Don'ts")
(14:14) Sponsor: Relationship Hero
(15:49) A Dynamic Approach to Partnership
(18:24) Considering Age Rate and Stage of Life
(19:35) Reclaiming Authentic Power in Love and Life
(23:36) Decoding Each Other's Communication Styles
(28:41) Integrating Family and Work Adventures
(32:50) A Shared Vision for Family and Career
(36:26) Future Family Plans: Adoption
(50:39) Hot Takes on Dating
(51:26) The Core of the Decision: Ask "What Feels Right"
(55:05) Protecting Your Relationship
(59:19) The Dream: An Integrated Life
(1:03:14) Wrap
"Modern Relationships" 
