PsycHacks Episode 254: Dating for shared interests
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Nov 20, 2022 Debunking the importance of shared interests in dating and relationships. Emphasizing the significance of emotional connection and passion over common activities. Highlighting the necessity of personal growth and tolerance for differences to maintain successful long-term relationships.
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Shared Interests Are Overrated
- Dr. O'Ryan Terriban opens by declaring that shared interests are overrated.
- He notes many people filter partners by hobbies, a strategy he challenges.
Interests Are Mere Facts
- Dr. O'Ryan Terriban says interests are factual, verifiable, and often boring.
- He argues that factual disclosures alone do not create attraction.
Feelings, Not Facts, Drive Attraction
- People become attracted to how you feel about your interests, not the bare facts.
- Dr. O'Ryan Terriban contrasts 'I like hiking' with vivid emotional descriptions to illustrate this.