Calm Parenting Podcast Consequences for Defiance, Disrespect & Lying? #439
Jan 15, 2025
Explore the challenges of defiance and disrespect in children, from toddlers saying 'I hate you' to teens rolling their eyes. Discover how to turn disrespect into connection through activities like baking. Learn about sensory needs and how meeting them can prevent misbehavior. Kirk shares tips on eliciting real apologies through calm interactions and handling clever disrespect with patience. He also emphasizes the importance of assigning adult-style jobs to strong-willed kids and using concise, calm discipline to foster trust and change behavior.
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Cookie Conflict Turned Connection
- Kirk recounts his niece Jordan taking cookies and telling him she didn't like him, then later baking cookies together which led to an apology.
- The calm shared activity opened space for connection and later emotional sharing about her life.
Meet The Need Behind The Behavior
- Do not assume consequences alone change the underlying need driving misbehavior.
- Provide tactile, sensory, or constructive alternatives to meet kids' needs instead of only punishing them.
Use Side-By-Side Activities
- Try side-by-side activities and tactile tasks to calm and connect with sensory kids.
- Use shared projects to reduce pressure and invite sincere apologies or conversation.