Understanding Jealousy in Relationships

Dr. Julie Hamilton, an expert in consensual non-monogamy, discusses the nature of jealousy and how it differs from envy. She explains that jealousy is a relational emotion that arises from the perceived interruption of a love bond, while envy is rooted in the desire to possess what others have. Hamilton emphasizes the importance of recognizing jealousy as a normal and complex emotion that can have both positive and negative aspects. She advises against trying to convert jealousy into something else, as it should be embraced and navigated through a more neutral perspective. Hamilton also introduces the concept of compersion, which involves finding joy in the happiness of one's partner in non-monogamous relationships. She shares tools and strategies for managing and understanding jealousy, emphasizing personal responsibility, growth mindset, and the lens of multiplicity in relationships.